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Originally Posted by knifeinthetoaster
It's not the age difference per se, it's the difference in maturity: there's a big difference in maturity between 13 and 21, but much less between 32 and 40.
Obviously, this isn't set in stone, but still ...
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Also, it has a lot to do with mentality. Mentality and maturity are a bit different. Chemda kinda elluded to this idea on the show but didn't specifically call it out ( I don't think).
There is always the, "Oh but she is so mature for an <some young age> year old" response when talking about girls 16-23ish being with guys 6+ years older then they are. For instance 16 with 22 and 20 with a 40 year old. A 16 year old may be mature but she still doesn't have the mentality of a 20+ year old guy even if they are equal in their maturity. They view the world differently due to their actual experiences in the world. Now a 24 and 30 match up, still 6 years is not so bad but mostly because both have had a sinificant amount of time out of school and or just having life experiences. They can "relate" more easily which is a pretty large part of a "relationship". Same ting with a 20 year old woman and a 40 year old guy. Unless he's the type of guy who never left his mother's basement or moved out of his home this is mentality mismatch as well. At 40, you would expect a man to be established in his career and have moved up a ways in that respect, owned a home, paid bills mabe even get married and divorced. The 20 year old girl is just getting started in life and will not be a mentality match for the older guy. Typically these relationships only "work" if the girl either 1. Didn't have a father figure growing up or 2. Had a father figure that was a little to "involved" with her development (in a creepy quiet your mother is in the other room kinda way). If this isn't the case, the 20 year old is an answer to the 40 year old's "Do I still have it?".