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Originally Posted by CuriousKlepto
That's one of my bigger problems. There isn't really big gay scene where I live so I have to look for gay guy friends online, most of which only want what I'm not ready to give up.
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Perhaps with your online profiles, make sure to make it clear that you are looking for friends ONLY. However, as a user of gay sites, I know that this can come across a bit desperate in a way. But, in saying that, you can build up a repore with someone before ever meeting them and hopefully, it can blossom into a friendship.
I have been where you are now. It's fucking difficult but it will come together in the end and you will meet friends and have lovers etc.
To answer your first question, I mean, it really depends on how you want your first time to be. If you want to just get past the experience and it doesn't matter who it's with, there really isn't any need to tell them at all. You can just ask them to take things slowly while you are with them and maybe just say you haven't had much experience but I think the thing with virgins on the gay scene, a lot of guys are scared that a virgin will latch on and read more into it if the other person was just after a fuck.
If you want it to mean something to you and be with someone that you care about, the best thing to do is get to know them before you do anything with them anyway so you would think that the person you are getting to know will be someone you can confide the fact that you are a virgin they are obviously not the person that is going to be special if they run away when you tell them.
Good luck with it all.