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Old 01-21-2009, 03:49 PM   #36 (permalink)
gin_web
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Originally Posted by HeyAnne View Post
not all woman have this ideal of a relationship. I have this exact problem with my husband but he is the one who needs constant attention and validation.

when we dated and the first years of our relationship that was fine - but now 15 years, 3 kids, 2 stepkids, a house, two cars and many other things later -- I am spread pretty thin. You need to change as your relationship changes -- I did -- he didnt. I use to love taking care of him and still do but I have lots of stuff to attend to now - including myself. And he feels left out and unloved if I am not constantly reassuring him.

I think making love is the relationship part and you should know how much someone loves by what goes on outside the bedroom or the kitchen or the car or wherever you have sex.
All I read was "this exact same problem" - end it - you're done

Plus - I'm going to be every other post in this thread till I'm done listening
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