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Originally Posted by Ansur
You're wrong. I have turned down women that I was too good for. Women turn down guys that they feel they are too good for. That's what it means to be out of someone's league.
It's more common for men to lower their standards for women than the other way around. A guy who makes $50K might pick up the waitress or cashier and date her, and nobody thinks it's a big deal. A woman that makes $50k isn't going to go down to dating the guy working at McDonald's. Those rare women that date beneath their socio-economic status are seen as someone having mental issues that supports her scumbag boyfriend.
Not saying it's right or wrong, but it is reality. These women can say the guy has potential, but she will still be judged by family and friends. And honestly, it's a rare guy that turns out to have potential. Most turn out to be the losers everyone thinks they are. Keith and Chemda's story might be the only one I know where the guy turned out to have as much potential as the woman thought. If she's that good a judge of character, she should start a side business just evaluating boyfriends for women.
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You measured everything my monetary value to decide what is and isn't "too good" for someone. LOL!
And you completely missed my point. I'm not saying that someone can't get with someone who they feel inferior to or vice versa I'm just saying that people get what they get.
Since you like to talk about money. Look at it like this. If you went to college but take a job getting paid minimum wage at McDonald's are you really "too good" for that job?
I think you are what you aspire to. So if you're goals and aspirations are low then you aren't actually "too good" for anything. Everyone is as good as whatever they accept in life. I feel no pity for people who settle for bad situations.
This chick didn't have to pledge herself to this loser. So ultimately she's responsible for her situation and she'll be "too good" for him when she's ready to move on and not a second before.
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Originally Posted by bannyup
This is accurate unfortunately...for most of the world. For some, myself included...looks have a small part of being attracted to someone. I dated a guy once who once said to me while walking through a Vegas casino, "you know people are probably wondering how much money I have." I knew immediately what he meant, he was probably lower than "average" looking (I still dont know who sets these standards) but he was a teacher, coach, and I was sincerely attracted to the person. Income aspect, I feel the same way. As long as he uses some of his money to make me feel special, even if thats by spending 10 bucks on a painting he knew I'd like. If we are talking monetary, I dont see it often, but I would have no qualms being with a teacher if I am a doctor.
And this is not breaking news, but a man tends to lower his standards because he was once the only person who hunted and brought home the carcass. Like a man married to a doctor but is in love with his nurse. (I have friends in this situation). Evolution, its a mental thing too. Culture and society will decide who catches on next.
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Meh... same thing as the other guy. You just skipped right over the principle of my argument.