Forced into a choice, I guess i'd pick submissive as it turns me on more. But I think everyone likes to be teased and being the object of attention. I feel that you have to have a desire for control and power in your relationship to really enjoy dominance in bed. it's also my pet theory that our culture sets males in the default role of "top" and it usually takes some discussion/trust to start playing around with those roles and experimenting.
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