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Ok
I sent the letter, written once, gone over with the boyfriend, tempered and rewritten...Here's what I said
I felt there was a need to clear the air over the fight we had at the spa. It has taken me time to simmer down and focus my thoughts as I was very offended and hurt by our conversation. I am going to keep my point simple, I am uncomfortable with discussing my upbringing and my parents. I would prefer from this point forward not to bring up these topics, sober or drunk. I felt the tone of the argument was judgmental and I am very very sensitive to this. I don't like what you had say that night but now I feel I have to move on as I am afraid it will get in the way of our friendship. We both had too much to drink and I know I said some things that I would have said totally differently had I been sober and I am sure I said things that hurt your feelings that night; I can be cutting when I am mad and defensive.
The truth is I want to forget about that 15 minute fight but I am struggling to do that.
I don't think either of us should have to apologize for how we feel, maybe for how we behaved but that's another story. I just wanted to let you know that I cannot handle these kinds of confrontations, not with you, my brothers, the husband....nobody. I am extremely uncomfortable and defensive with them so really it's not a good place to go with me.
So let's move forward and not look back at the things that hurt us
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