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Originally Posted by Cretaceous Bob
Let's not try to pretend that somebody's just being an arbitrary dick. If you're going to ask people to understand the mindset of a depressed person, you're required to understand the mindset of someone who's not familiar with depression.
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Fair enough. I'm sorry I came off so harshly, but it's the same level of frustration I have with addicts. There are so many solutions laid out before them, so many awesome possibilities in life, and yet there seem to be an equal amount of excuses for keeping that wall up between them and a more positive future. It drives me fucking nuts, because I have never been inside of that. Some of my favorite people have fallen prey to addiction, or depression, or both. I was in love with, and living with an addict for 5 years, doing everything within my power to help him, focusing a great deal of time, money, and love on him. I have found myself in a pit of SUCH darkness and self-destruction, too, but finally snapped and got to the point where I knew I had to consciously change EVERYTHING. I had to make a conscious change in perspective, lifestyle, surroundings, diet (and everything I put into my body), and clawed my way out. It is so frustrating, and sad, that all of these amazing people with enormous potential aren't clawing their way out for whatever reason. But like I said, I've never been inside their heads.
I'm not saying this applies to Lucas, because I don't know him, but I feel like a lot of people CHOOSE the victim role. Our culture is full of excuses, but it's also full of insensitivity. There's a fine line between whining and brain chemistry. There's also a fine line between being supportive and enabling. I was reading so much "it's not your fault" enabling that I wanted to present this other perspective where maybe will-power may play a role somewhere? But it came out in an incredibly harsh-sounding way. I KNOW you can't just "walk it off," that it's a process.
I feel like Keith and Chemda approached this issue beautifully, in a sensitive manner, and brought up a lot of great questions. I really wish Lucas the best,
and hope that this transformation will come. I truly believe that manifesting positivity is a choice, and a practice.