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Originally Posted by TallulahB
I think people like Myq and Lauren are rare. They are both so intelligent, in control, motivated, and have common sense. As a parent, I certainly did not want my stepson to use any substances while he was living at home. I didn't think he could handle it, but he, of course, started drinking and got into all kinds of trouble with it, including a DWI. Things still aren't good and I don't know what other drugs he has used.
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Thanks for saying nice things. Though I don't think Lauren and I are alone in having common sense.
Part of the problem in our society is that people lump "drugs" or "substances" together. Drinking has definitively different effects than pot or mushrooms.
If we tell kids a blanket statement that all drugs have adverse effects, and then they try pot and see that it doesn't do all that much, I think that THAT could have the biggest adverse effect. Pot's not a gateway but lying about pot and grouping pot with other actual more dangerous substances COULD be one.
I think we talked about this, but I'm certainly not for anyone of any age to do any drug at any time. But I am for parents to be able to speak honestly to their kids about it, talk about why it's important to have rules with age limits, because sometimes we DON'T know how a substance will affect a younger person's brain. If you have alcohol too early, you get fetal alcohol syndrome. If you have it when you're a grown-up, you don't.
I'm for good honest parenting, and also for people to try things when they're ready for them under as ideal circumstances as possible.