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I've got some close gay friends (our rehearsal space is in the basement of their flower shop) who have been trying to adopt.
An agency didn't work, overseas didn't work...
So as gay men, they started looking on their own. They were very particular about where they searched because, in certain states, they could both be "the father" and in some states only one could be "the father." They created a Facebook page, placed ads in newspapers in the respective states, advertised on Craigslist. They have so many horror stories from the process. So far, they have spent around $50,000.
One woman they were talking to had a miscarriage.
One woman was addicted to Meth and had 2 kids in a 1-bedroom apartment. She was pregnant with her third. Dad was in prison and wouldn't sign the paperwork because it was two gay men. The woman decided to keep her baby. They said this was worse than the miscarriage because now this baby will go through hell.
A 15-year old girl called and claimed to be pregnant. After about a month, the guys realized she wasn't pregnant and just wanted someone to talk to.
One woman left her kids with her mom, went to the park and had a "quickie" with a stranger. She got pregnant from it. She wanted the guys to pay her rent, food bills, medical expenses and give her an allowance. Their lawyer told them not to go through with it because she, in the end, still might decide to keep the baby.
Another woman found out she was pregnant and got in touch with the guys. She hadn't told her boyfriend yet. After they had been talking for a while, she told her boyfriend and they decided to raise it together!
Now, they've found a lesbian couple in New Jersey. Each woman has a child from a different relationship and they have one together. Now one of them is going to carry a baby for 2 gay guys in Ohio. However, the surrogacy laws in NJ so strict that neither man can use their own sperm and they have to go to a sperm bank. Then the women have to put the baby up for adoption. Only then can the men legally adopt the baby.
:-/
She's supposed to be getting fertilized this week!
Here's to hoping!
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