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Haven't gotten to the show just yet - but I am going to comment on the poll. I -almost- had a threesome (so Keith, not fucking with your science. Voting No).

I was casually dating a girl who would escort on the side, and she got a bit attached to one client because he paid really well. I was fine with it, you make money how you make money. All I cared about was that she was safe about it, and she was. His wife ended up killing herself (she had a lot of issue, both physical and mental that doctors could no longer assist her, so it was one of those suicides where on the surface you're like "yeah, that probably wasn't a bad choice"). What bothered me was he never really "grieved" properly as they were together a long time, joking inappropriately about the situation, and there must have been issues because he was seeing my kinda-not-really-girlfriend for pay. It all seemed off. They then became a couple (so, he stopped paying that way), and we started to see each other less and less. A week after all that happened, she invited us both over, and the whole night seemed really off. As the night ended, she wanted to start fondling and making out with me in front of him on the floor: nope. Creepy factor way too high. I bailed and asked for a ride home.

Yes, we're no longer seeing each other. I realize that it was for the best, she wanted what I couldn't provide - Guuchi, trips, a new car... Yada, yadda. *sings Now I ain't sayin' she's a gold-digger*. I hold no ill-will really, yeah, a piece of me should have seen it at the time, and yes I dodged a bullet. But they're happily married now with child, and she's happy. That's all I care about. I got to know him a bit better, he's not so bad. He'll take care of her and the baby. I can't ask for more.

It's funny, though, I don't see them lasting just from a rational standpoint - they moved in together in a month of the other woman's death, engaged (in Italy during a round Europe trip) and married in 3 months, and now baby in less than a year. Yeah. Statistics aren't on their side.

I should clarify, too, because I know how astute these forums are (that's why I love this place and this community) - I did post a while back that I was asexual, and I do believe I still fall under that umbrella somewhat. To this day I still don't have an urge to go after someone sexually unless I'm really, really close to them. Even then, I love to express my sexuality in non-physical ways (the mind is a wonderful sex toy for all genders). Would I participate in a threesome? Yes, under 'correct' circumstances. I know they say don't do it with a dating couple - I wouldn't put 'married swingers' in that same category. There's a lot of them around here who've been doing it for years, it's their kind of sex life. There's even a few clubs (Nova Scotia, you'd never think). If I know the couple well and all they're doing is fulfilling a sexual want they both wish to try, and I'm keen on both, git 'er done.