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Originally Posted by Apia
All is good. It was like a therapy for me to write this. My mother and other women in my family wanted me to behave like that and I hated it. That's why I react so negatively to baby voice and so on.
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My mom has never and would never teach me to act dumber. However, I have noticed that she pretends to be ditzy and incompetent on occasion in order to not have to do stuff and she also thinks it's cute-usually around men.
It's extremely jarring because she is the stereotypical "I'm a strong black woman and I don't need no man". Has 3 degrees, raised 2 kids mostly alone, paid for both their college tuitions alone, her version of "asking" for help from a man was occasionally dropping us off at our dad's front door on saturday morning cause she needed to pull a double shift so we can go to disney world for spring break.
Now suddenly in her 50s I'm seeing her being ditzy and passive and it's a little upsetting.