[AstoriaGirl]

I'm really Glad that everyone else seems to have such a great experience with 12 step programs. My mom dragged me to an AlAnon meeting when I was a teen, and the one we went to was really just a bunch of rich middle aged white women more pissed that their breadwinner wasn't dispensing with the money than anything else. It was also the biggest pity party that I had ever seen, and noone was challenged to grow on anything. Over the years, I've realized that perhaps this group was a fluke.

ETA: specifically, I remember everyone repeating the idea that addiction was something their husband did to them, and inflicted on their lives. And there was no talk of taking control of your own life, and owning your own decisions or actions that have impacted where you are now.