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Old 01-10-2018, 12:38 PM   #7 (permalink)
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Originally Posted by Apia View Post
Exactly.
A to do for women: ( yes for women)

When you meet a troubled guy, don't think " I can heal him with my love and help him, that's the real love, let's date or get married!"
Think:
" he is nice, but he can only help himself to get better. We can be friends but I'm no magic healer and I have my own shit"
Most people that have savior complexes, or fear of abandonment, usually have to go through a few of the failed attempts of the first thought to then get to point where they are even capable of having the second thought....

Also most people don't really embrace the concept of working on their own shit outside of a relationship until they have been in a few. Many young people think relationships fill voids inside them, men and women.
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