The whole point of asking a question- is to get an answer.
I think a lot of problems could be avoided if you intro with, “Hey can I just vent a minute?” Otherwise you’re confusing your man. You’re asking for input and problem solving - only to ignore, (or worse) become bewildered as to our response.
Small talk. Venting. Asking questions. These are all distinctly different things. Just a prelude or heads up as to which one you are going with helps.
Thank you!!!