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Originally Posted by Apia
Chemda,
I can do most things on my own. I’m bad with telling where is south or north, but I have gps on my phone. Otherwise I’m fine.
When I was a child my mother told me this was a bad thing because I should give men the opportunity to feel good about themselves and feel needed.
So I should hide what I can do, or I will not find a man.
Na.
I always had enough men interested in me. I realized that I don’t want a man who needs opening a wine bottle for me or parking a car to feel like a man. Be better men.
And what about my feelings? I enjoy doing things on my own and I’m proud I can do shit.
I need emotional stability, being dependable, having their shit together, being smart and funny, being sexy, being honest and loving from my partner.
Btw my mother never sold this message right because she is a pretty dominant person who always worked and just sometimes performs helplessness and annoys me and others with it.
She thinks she should be more stereotypically female to have an easier life. I think this is stupid.
Is there maybe still some motherly voice in you head telling you you need a men for doing shit?
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That's lovely.
For the record, I'm joking that going camping on my own makes men dispensible. I like romance. But romance to me isn't just the list that my mom gave me. Romance is a snugglier version of friendship.