[Rabbit]

I disagree with her on how she defines the difference between open relationships and polyamory. Saying that someone with a primary and secondary is merely in an open relationship and not poly is an insult to how important the secondary could be to that person.

I just don't agree that it only counts as poly if everyone is equal. My friendships aren't equal, but all my friends are important to me. If you are dating around (nothing wrong with doing that) then it's much easier to view all your partners as equal. But if you've been with one person for a decade, and start dating someone new, it doesn't count as poly because you have a longer history with someone else? That new partner is still very important.

And if the person you are on a date with is spending the whole date texting their primary then it's not an admonishment to polyamory, it just means that person is being a jerk.