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Originally Posted by Blitzgal
I really think you take these comments way too personally. In this instance, she was clearly speaking about a very specific type of parent - the ones who insist to childfree people that they need to have kids, who keep pushing that line even after being told by the childfree person that they are very happy with their decision, and who make this exaggerated show of how they're doing the most important job in the world by having a kid. It's a very specific type of person. If that's not you, then she isn't talking about you.
These comments were made during a conversation about how people have these ingrained ideas about what "the perfect family" is, and how people who don't conform to that face moral outrage over it.
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At the same time, some people do react to the extreme. There are 16 year Olds that are like "oh my god my grandma made a comment about assuming I'll have kids one day. Look at this breeder culture".
A coworker the other day asked me if I have kids "yet" and then gave me a recommendation about child wellbeing based on something she was experiencing presently. A part of me is like "that's sure an assumption" but then the other part of me was like "no she isn't meaning anything bad by it. She's just trying to connect with me and share her experiences with me as a way of showing she cares"