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Old 06-07-2019, 11:11 AM   #18 (permalink)
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Absolutely.

Ahem, I hope there wasn't too much bite in my response. I can't even say for sure what level of care and attention I need in a relationship, I don't have a lot of experience. You have fresh trauma, it's gonna take some time. I think Xerxes is the right amount of patient.


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Yeah I get it. I don’t like this response in me either. I told myself all the stuff that you said also.

He is also fresh off trauma and sometimes I notice he’s not responding to me. He’s responding to something else he’s used to. It never mean or shitty from either of us. It’s something to notice and work on with ourselves. It’s habits we weren’t away if because they get normalized over time.

That’s why it’s worth it. We all come from some trauma. He and I don’t get mad at each other for the pain we came with. We don’t put it on each other. We just admit it and say what we’re doing to be better.




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