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To simply answer Chemda's question: what is grooming?
Grooming is a process of gaining trust of a child by buying gifts, by affirming them ("no one understands you, but I understand you") or through flattery ("you are so much more mature than your peers").
Then it is follow by pushing boundaries (by normalizing touching by starting on a knee and then moving onto massages) and asserting authority (this is normal as an adult because I'm an adult).
In the end, they gaslight the children to the point where the child thinks the behavior is normal and their feelings of doubt are because they are immature.
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