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Originally Posted by vezione
If Sorry, I don't want it to be that I'm conflating my situation with Newsy's. It's very interesting as an outsider listening and playing armchair psychiatrist that we have a perspective that no amount of paid therapy can achieve just because of the amount of hours we've gotten lucky enough to hear.
But here's my take... So that first stage of "love" I think most people experience. You get giddy, butterflies, ignore red flags... But it eventually goes away as we all expect and what you mentioned in your reply. And then comes the time to invest in a romantic bond. The last time Newsy did that me slogged through it because (I'm putting words into people's mouths here lol) he felt like it was something he "should" do. Work hard enough and things will get easier right? Except he didn't like that. And he mentions often that he doesn't want that part. That's not to try to demean any of his experiences. I hear someone frustrated at this point because he's trying on his best to make something work that won't work for him. The fun thing about the time 2 live in now is that there are now words for all the things and the people who never fit nicely into a box can put a name to it. My guess is that on the spectrum of interpersonal relationships spectrum that he's somewhere within the aromantic spectrum. And at the end of the day I know I'm just a jerk off on a forums.
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Well thank you for taking so much time to respond to this! (You too Apia!)
I definitely think there's a huge aspect of the "new love energy" drug.
I think my self esteem plays a huge roll in this as well but it's not as sexy to talk about.
I don't think I'm built for traditional relationship models. I promise you I have to suppress an eye roll Any time I see couples expressing love for each other. That's not a healthy view of love. I don't think I believe in it past physical chemistry and a lot of codependency (that last line seems mean).
I can't even be around my friends for days at a time, I've yet to find a partner that I'm around for more than 3 days without my whole soul taking over my internal monolog, demanding time alone.
When I don't have a crush, it's easier for my life. When I'm not trying to pretend I can do relationships correctly, it's even better for my life. When the dispatcher I hooked up with last night says the things that he said to me, it feels godly.
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