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Originally Posted by Apia resurrected
I agree with Chemda about "big romance". It's very close to manipulation and sometimes it is manipulation. I'm not interested in it and I'm suspicious when I see it. It was always the worst relationships for me that were full of it.
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I thought more about it.
I think it's because the big romantic gestures correspond with the feeling of a crush. Not the feeling of love. It's big excitement. This is not sustainable. Some romantic gestures in the beginning can be OK, as long as they will be replaced with trust and real love, the more quiet kind in the long run.
The kings and queens of the exited crush are often not interested in the transition from crush to love. They need the dopamine hit and so they loose interest and move on to a new person.