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Michael's Servant 07-20-2016 11:01 AM

78: Black Brunch
 
Elsa Waithe and Michael Khalili debate the effects of the Black Brunch movement.



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mr slug 07-24-2016 10:12 PM

It seemed like Chemda and Elsa misinterpreted Michael's point as if Michael was suggesting that direct action shouldn't cause people to feel threatened in any way at all (ie their perceptions/mindset/way of life/income, etc) but of course that has to happen for any meaningful change to occur, and Michael never disagreed with that. He was just saying, don't make people worry about their own safety in the process because that's detrimental to your cause.

Chemda's right, both direct action and legislative change are necessary and valuable. Elsa's right that getting up in people's faces does have a real, immediate impact and that's important, but Michael's also right that to ensure that the changes that are made become permanent, they have to be implemented through legislative change.

Michael offered excellent, articulate arguments but also made Elsa feel attacked and invalidated with some poorly chosen words and unnecessary insults. I suspect Elsa left frustrated, which is a shame because she was making interesting and important points too.

All three people here are on the same side but got caught up arguing about the best way to achieve the changes they want made. Any change in the right direction is a good thing, as long as you don't make people concerned for their physical safety in the process.

zappbrannigan 07-28-2016 10:52 PM

Michael, c'mon. You're going to bury your head in your Eggs Benny because someone stood in front of a door? :confused:

AlyssaN 08-02-2016 05:08 PM

A thought that I kept having when the idea of perceived threat came up . . . the perception of threat has so so so much to do with the social context of the time and the stereotypes that people hold.

I believe that given the context of the South during the civil rights movement, the diner patrons likely perceived sit-in participants as potentially threatening. Their perception did not make it a reality, their fear was a symptom of misconceptions and a belief that black people couldn't really be non-violent.

Just a thought . . .

littlp 08-02-2016 09:10 PM

I think that maybe part of the point of the perceived threat is to make others feel a possible smidgeon of what people of color feel on a daily basis when encountering authority figures-except the white patrons are lucky that the protesters don't mean them harm and they luck out...much more than people of color.

Michael's argument about why blocking the road was weak...my concern about the road being blocked is it preventing actual emergency vehicles to get to where they need to go. That kind of hold up could cause people to die and I'm not ok with that on either side of the argument.

I felt like Elsa shut down at one point due to feeling like she was constantly being interrupted...this could just be my perception.

It seems like the only way things get done/changed is through anger and protesting. Campaign zero has an excellent strategy laid out with actual policies they want to see in place and examples of it working.

I applaud Michael for asking about specifics as to what Chemda and Elsa are looking for in terms of changes. We need specific, measurable goals. Campaign zero does an excellent job in laying it out clearly.


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stratwill 08-05-2016 01:24 AM

Partial trancript of the original KATG episode:
Elsa: Violence doesn't have to be hurting somebody. I mean I think a protest could be violent without hurting a single thing you know. You've seen Black Brunch where people come into these fancy brunch and dinner spots and we disrupt your lunch.
Chemda: Is that violent?
Elsa: It's definitely aggressive. It's definitely aggressive tactics.
...
Keith: How do you disrupt it?
...
Elsa: The Black Brunch or disruptions like that, what my group tends to do, well when I was with them is we have what I like to call teachings where we will highlight one specific victim of police brutality and then present the cases, you know the facts around the case. So that a lot of people don't know that when Eric Garner was choked to death he didn't have a single cigarette on him.
...
Chemda: So what are you doing at the brunch with the information?
Elsa: We, we bring these facts to the people.
...
Chemda: Do you stand in the middle of the restaurant?
Elsa: We come to the middle of the restaurant. We come to the door. We don't let anybody in or let anybody out.
Chemda: Oh, I see. Ok.
...
Keith: But you are stopping people from leaving, right?
Elsa: I mean if you want to leave you'll leave. But we're going to stand by the door.
Chemda: Ok so you're intimidating people? By standing, well, you're standing by the door and you're coming in.
Elsa: Being black is very intimidating in and of itself. So a bunch of people coming into your restaurant when they're not invited I'm sure is intimidating.
Keith: It's hard to say if you're intimidating me. I'm just trying to leave.
Elsa: You can leave. You can leave. I'm going to stand here, but you can leave.
...
Michael: ... You know that by standing by the door the implication is: I'm not going to let you leave or you're going to have to confront me to leave.
Elsa: Sure, whatever. But that doesn't hurt anybody.


Michael asked at the end of this episode what people thought his point of view was.

1st: Blocking the door is counter-productive because it implies a threat.
2nd: Black Brunch is an ineffective circle jerk for the benefit of the participants feeling good about themselves. Voting and changing laws is what matters.

Then he was drawn into arguing about whether direct action or working within the system was best. The discussion became "either or" rather than either side acknowledging that both could be useful. (Chemda tried to make this point several times without much success. Elsa did as well at the beginning, but then argued against Michael so strenuously about working in the system that her earlier discussion about some people not being suited for direct action seems minimized).

While I have some sympathy for Michael wanting to keep the argument narrowly on the implied threat of the door standing, it would probably have been a boring hour if that had been all that was discussed.

Random observations:
Elsa and Chemda repeatedly threw up straw men, exaggerating or misconstruing Michael's argument and then arguing against the exaggeration.

Elsa seemed to take a lot Michael's criticism of her activism tactics as a personal attack. Sometimes Michael did the same.

Elsa seemed to react in a dismissive manner rather than engaging in the argument as time went on. Michael interrupted a lot. (I am a straight white male interrupter. I struggle with this. I can imagine that a queer black female who has undoubtedly experienced being interrupted repeatedly her entire life by straights, whites, and men might become somewhat dismissive in an argument.)

The biggest issue I take with Michael's argument is the lack of empathy. He was arguing big picture abstractions of working within the system while Elsa was talking about the immediate effect of the current system on the individuals who are coerced and oppressed by the system. He may have had some valid points about how technology is improving the system slowly. For someone in Michael's position, (affluent, educated, not black or hispanic) it may be fast enough. But he is ignoring what it might feel like if you're poor and black.

Additionally, one of the big complaints I've heard from female activists is how often men come and tell them how they are doing their activism wrong. Elsa might have a stronger reaction in light of how often this sort of thing happens.

Chemda seemed to willfully ignore the difference between slowing traffic on an ordinary bridge or highway versus the airport on Christmas Eve. There's an enormous difference between thousands of people losing thousands of dollars and disrupting their holidays and thousands of people getting home late from work on an average Wednesday in June. You may think both are justified, but to suggest that there is no real difference is ridiculous.

Michael did a good job of trying to pin down Elsa and Chemda on specifics regarding how to replace or fix "the system". Elsa had some good responses specific to police violence, but neither her or Chemda presented any real big picture ideas that Michael was asking them for.

I totally had a great recent example of direct action working recently, but I have forgotten it.

A question for Michael relating to the original narrow scope of the argument: If a Black Brunch happened with no one at the door, would you call it counter-productive, merely ineffective, or beneficial?

MichaelApproved 08-07-2016 03:08 AM

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Originally Posted by mr slug (Post 854247)
It seemed like Chemda and Elsa misinterpreted Michael's point as if Michael was suggesting that direct action shouldn't cause people to feel threatened in any way at all (ie their perceptions/mindset/way of life/income, etc) but of course that has to happen for any meaningful change to occur, and Michael never disagreed with that. He was just saying, don't make people worry about their own safety in the process because that's detrimental to your cause.

Thanks! Changing the status-que is scary and someone will be frightened whenever the system is changed. However, frightening someone shouldn't be an intended part of the process.

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Originally Posted by mr slug (Post 854247)
Chemda's right, both direct action and legislative change are necessary and valuable. Elsa's right that getting up in people's faces does have a real, immediate impact and that's important, but Michael's also right that to ensure that the changes that are made become permanent, they have to be implemented through legislative change.

I would add that getting in people's faces is important. However, I would get into the face of those in power, not those I want to rally behind my cause.

I say that with the understanding that the term "getting in people's face" is aggressive in nature.

I would want to get in front of those that I want to rally behind my cause, not get in their faces.

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Originally Posted by mr slug (Post 854247)
Michael offered excellent, articulate arguments but also made Elsa feel attacked and invalidated with some poorly chosen words and unnecessary insults. I suspect Elsa left frustrated, which is a shame because she was making interesting and important points too.

I'm curious which part you thought was insulting to Elsa. I would like to apologize to her, if I was insulting.

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Originally Posted by mr slug (Post 854247)
All three people here are on the same side but got caught up arguing about the best way to achieve the changes they want made. Any change in the right direction is a good thing, as long as you don't make people concerned for their physical safety in the process.

Agreed.

MichaelApproved 08-07-2016 03:14 AM

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Originally Posted by zappbrannigan (Post 854323)
Michael, c'mon. You're going to bury your head in your Eggs Benny because someone stood in front of a door? :confused:

That's kind of the heart of my disagreement with the tactics used. Blocking someone's exit doesn't make them receptive to what you have to say. It's more likely to confirm stereotypes and misconceptions than to make them open to new ideas and information.

You think blocking the front door is meaningless. I think there's a strong implication there. I have no doubt that Elsa and fellow Black Brunch participants would not harm anyone looking to leave. That is because I know Elsa and her intentions. Others don't. Imagine what it would be like to have a group of strangers barge into your restaurant and block your exit.

If you didn't mean to imply that I couldn't leave then you won't stand in front of the door.

It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia had a great scene about "implication". Elsa would not hurt anyone in the restaurant but she is intentionally giving them the implication that they can't leave.

MichaelApproved 08-07-2016 03:23 AM

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Originally Posted by AlyssaN (Post 854423)
A thought that I kept having when the idea of perceived threat came up . . . the perception of threat has so so so much to do with the social context of the time and the stereotypes that people hold.

I believe that given the context of the South during the civil rights movement, the diner patrons likely perceived sit-in participants as potentially threatening. Their perception did not make it a reality, their fear was a symptom of misconceptions and a belief that black people couldn't really be non-violent.

Just a thought . . .

At least during the diner sit-ins, they were taking the protest directly to the problem. One of the issues I have with BLM and Black Brunch is that it's confronting those who have not harmed them.

Take the fight directly to those in power who are oppressing your civil rights.

MichaelApproved 08-07-2016 03:32 AM

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Originally Posted by littlp (Post 854430)
I think that maybe part of the point of the perceived threat is to make others feel a possible smidgeon of what people of color feel on a daily basis when encountering authority figures-except the white patrons are lucky that the protesters don't mean them harm and they luck out...much more than people of color.

It's funny that there's a disagreement about a perceived threat. On the show, I was mocked about being scared of someone holding a sign.

To your point, if that was actually their goals, I would still disagree with those tactics. I think it would just play into stereotypes and misconceptions.

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Originally Posted by littlp (Post 854430)
Michael's argument about why blocking the road was weak...my concern about the road being blocked is it preventing actual emergency vehicles to get to where they need to go. That kind of hold up could cause people to die and I'm not ok with that on either side of the argument.

Yes, that's even worse. Why expose yourself to this liability for negative press?

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Originally Posted by littlp (Post 854430)
I felt like Elsa shut down at one point due to feeling like she was constantly being interrupted...this could just be my perception.

You're not the only one who said this which is strange to me. Before hearing this, I thought we equally jumped in on each other's conversation but I accept this criticism. [/QUOTE]

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Originally Posted by littlp (Post 854430)
It seems like the only way things get done/changed is through anger and protesting. Campaign zero has an excellent strategy laid out with actual policies they want to see in place and examples of it working.

I applaud Michael for asking about specifics as to what Chemda and Elsa are looking for in terms of changes. We need specific, measurable goals. Campaign zero does an excellent job in laying it out clearly.

Agreed!

MichaelApproved 08-07-2016 04:19 AM

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Originally Posted by stratwill (Post 854474)
Partial trancript of the original KATG episode:
Michael: ... You know that by standing by the door the implication is: I'm not going to let you leave or you're going to have to confront me to leave.
Elsa: Sure, whatever. But that doesn't hurt anybody.[/I]

Some people might feel like I was harping on an issue but this was a big part of my point. Blocking the door and making people feel intimidated is counterproductive. People are not receptive to new information when they're being scared.

This is constantly denied during the early part of the show, which is why I felt like I was taking crazy pills. Chemda and Elsa were pretending that I was being scared of Elsa simply holding a sign when Elsa knows that the act of blocking the door is a big part of what makes the situation intimidating.

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Originally Posted by stratwill (Post 854474)
Michael asked at the end of this episode what people thought his point of view was.

1st: Blocking the door is counter-productive because it implies a threat.
2nd: Black Brunch is an ineffective circle jerk for the benefit of the participants feeling good about themselves. Voting and changing laws is what matters.

Thanks. I would add that voting matters beyond just laws. It matters because we need people in office who will enforce those laws. It doesn't help to have laws on the books that the police commissioner and district attorney won't enforce.

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Originally Posted by stratwill (Post 854474)
Then he was drawn into arguing about whether direct action or working within the system was best. The discussion became "either or" rather than either side acknowledging that both could be useful. (Chemda tried to make this point several times without much success. Elsa did as well at the beginning, but then argued against Michael so strenuously about working in the system that her earlier discussion about some people not being suited for direct action seems minimized).

I think direct action is working within the system. Even though some direction action tactics are technically illegal, it doesn't mean it's not within our societal system. I just disagree with the tactics and focus of certain actions.

Rally people behind your cause and take the fight to those in power.

Elsa believes that Black Brunch rallies people to the cause (or at least educates them about it). I believe it does not.

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Originally Posted by stratwill (Post 854474)
While I have some sympathy for Michael wanting to keep the argument narrowly on the implied threat of the door standing, it would probably have been a boring hour if that had been all that was discussed.

No doubt! I just had to harp on it because it was previously admitted to by Elsa and it was a core reason why I felt Black Brunch was ineffective. To say that there was not intent to be intimidating was maddening.

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Originally Posted by stratwill (Post 854474)
Random observations:
Elsa and Chemda repeatedly threw up straw men, exaggerating or misconstruing Michael's argument and then arguing against the exaggeration.

Seriously.

Quote:

Originally Posted by stratwill (Post 854474)
Elsa seemed to take a lot Michael's criticism of her activism tactics as a personal attack. Sometimes Michael did the same.

I think that happened when one of us painted the other with a broad brush.

Quote:

Originally Posted by stratwill (Post 854474)
Elsa seemed to react in a dismissive manner rather than engaging in the argument as time went on. Michael interrupted a lot. (I am a straight white male interrupter. I struggle with this. I can imagine that a queer black female who has undoubtedly experienced being interrupted repeatedly her entire life by straights, whites, and men might become somewhat dismissive in an argument.)

You know, I'm Middle Eastern, right? I watched my parents and family face bigotry. I have also had to deal with bigotry myself. No question that a black person in America faces more bigotry but it's not like I'm "straight white male".

However, I understand your point about it possibly being Elsa's point of view. I wonder what she'd have to say about that.

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Originally Posted by stratwill (Post 854474)
The biggest issue I take with Michael's argument is the lack of empathy. He was arguing big picture abstractions of working within the system while Elsa was talking about the immediate effect of the current system on the individuals who are coerced and oppressed by the system. He may have had some valid points about how technology is improving the system slowly. For someone in Michael's position, (affluent, educated, not black or hispanic) it may be fast enough. But he is ignoring what it might feel like if you're poor and black.

My argument is that Elsa thinks she's having an immediate effect on the current system when she is not. I think Black Brunch has no effect and might even be counter productive.

I'm not ignoring what it might feel like if you're poor and black. I get why Elsa is frustrated. I just don't think her tactics are effective.

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Originally Posted by stratwill (Post 854474)
Additionally, one of the big complaints I've heard from female activists is how often men come and tell them how they are doing their activism wrong. Elsa might have a stronger reaction in light of how often this sort of thing happens.

I can understand how anyone saying "you're doing it wrong" can be upsetting, regardless of the gender/race. Especially when you're out in the field doing what you can and feel like someone is criticizing you from the sidelines.

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Originally Posted by stratwill (Post 854474)
Chemda seemed to willfully ignore the difference between slowing traffic on an ordinary bridge or highway versus the airport on Christmas Eve. There's an enormous difference between thousands of people losing thousands of dollars and disrupting their holidays and thousands of people getting home late from work on an average Wednesday in June. You may think both are justified, but to suggest that there is no real difference is ridiculous.

Thanks! =D

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Originally Posted by stratwill (Post 854474)
Michael did a good job of trying to pin down Elsa and Chemda on specifics regarding how to replace or fix "the system". Elsa had some good responses specific to police violence, but neither her or Chemda presented any real big picture ideas that Michael was asking them for.

I think this is a key difference between Elsa and me. I believe the system is worth saving and changing. Elsa thinks there are too many issues within the system and it's best to start over.

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Originally Posted by stratwill (Post 854474)
I totally had a great recent example of direct action working recently, but I have forgotten it.

I hope you remember what it was. I bet it had something to do with changing laws or political leaders by taking the complaint directly to them with a group that was rallied behind your cause.

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Originally Posted by stratwill (Post 854474)
A question for Michael relating to the original narrow scope of the argument: If a Black Brunch happened with no one at the door, would you call it counter-productive, merely ineffective, or beneficial?

I believe it would still be counter productive but less so. I think people are fearful when a group takes over a restaurant and are not receptive to the message. I think that fear ends up reinforcing stereotypes and misconceptions which would be counter productive.

Take the fight to those in power. Make them fearful of being thrown out of office and losing their jobs if they don't respect our civil rights.

MichaelApproved 08-07-2016 04:49 AM

Regarding Martin Luther King Jr.'s protests. On the show, I couldn't explain why I would be OK with protests like the March on Selma and not blocking the highway, since King's marches blocked the road as well. Unfortunately, I wasn't educated enough on the topic to explain the difference, so I researched it after the show.

Here are clear differences between the two
  • The protest march and associated protests at the White House took the fight directly to those in power.
  • The goal of the march was to get a bill passed in congress.
  • The protesters marched 10 miles a day but blocking traffic along the way was not their goal. It was only when the group grew too large that traffic was effected.

Now, there's a ton more that happened over the years that Martin Luther King Jr. and fellow activists fought for civil rights but they fought to change the system, not destroy it. They fought for political change with specific goals.

I think that's a far different movement that the disorganized Black Lives Matter movement. I think the disorganization BLM has is similar to the disorganization the Occupy movement had.

Having said that, seeing clear goals with Campaign Zero and the recently released Vision for Black Lives will go a long way to organize the movement and enact real change.

I look forward to their success in improving the civil rights of all Americans.

GreeningOA 08-20-2016 09:57 PM

This was very intense. There were times that I was super frustrated with both Elsa and Michael. One thing maybe we could all agree on us is that this conversation possibly accomplished more good for our common cause then a Black Brunch.

DJ Trashy 10-16-2018 04:57 PM

Still doing VIP catch-up, so way late on this one, but geeze. How did Michael turn into a slightly progressive version of Archie Bunker? :(

O'Ryan 06-22-2020 04:17 PM

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Originally Posted by DJ Trashy (Post 871345)
Still doing VIP catch-up, so way late on this one, but geeze. How did Michael turn into a slightly progressive version of Archie Bunker? :(

I agree. I like Michael, but I've found him very dismissive in this episode. He did a lot of interrupting when he heard things he disagreed with rather than let her finish her statement, but gets annoyed with Elsa when she does the same to him. He also made things sound simpler then they are. "Oh just go to the library if you don't have internet, or just put up candidates that will enact the law you want", he completely glosses over Elsa's point that there's little good in attempting to utilize a system that is both broken and intentionally set up to make it more difficult to get ahead in every way. Listening to Elsa, I hear the same sentiment that I heard in the clip of Kimberly Jones at the end of ep #3279.

To hear this conversation four years after it was had, a month after the murder of George Floyd... I can't come up with a good way to describe it other than this would be a very good episode to revisit given the current protests here and around the world.

MichaelApproved 06-23-2020 09:48 AM

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Originally Posted by O'Ryan (Post 884017)
I agree. I like Michael

Thanks!

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Originally Posted by O'Ryan (Post 884017)
but

uh oh...

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Originally Posted by O'Ryan (Post 884017)
I've found him very dismissive in this episode. He did a lot of interrupting when he heard things he disagreed with rather than let her finish her statement, but gets annoyed with Elsa when she does the same to him.

It's been a while since the episode but I think my interruption was calling her out for changing her story. She kept backtracking and pretending she didn't say what we JUST HEARD HER SAY.

Initially, she said she was deliberately trying to scare people to get their attention. People couldn't leave and had to listen to what she was saying. I was pointing out that it was counterproductive to do that.

Then she said people were free to leave and she wasn't trying to prevent people from leaving. Meanwhile, she JUST SAID that they deliberately stood in front of the door, giving the implication that people couldn't leave.

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Originally Posted by O'Ryan (Post 884017)
He also made things sound simpler then they are. "Oh just go to the library if you don't have internet, or just put up candidates that will enact the law you want", he completely glosses over Elsa's point that there's little good in attempting to utilize a system that is both broken and intentionally set up to make it more difficult to get ahead in every way. Listening to Elsa, I hear the same sentiment that I heard in the clip of Kimberly Jones at the end of ep #3279.

Am I remembering correctly that Elsa said she never voted in her life? If that's true, she and everyone else who doesn't vote is a major part of the problem.

Trump was elected with only 27% of eligible voters. 100 million Americans stayed home.

Yes, yes. You can make a case that the Electoral College makes an NYS vote for president meaningless but, for what Elsa is complaining about, local elections matter even more.

Mayor, Judges, District Attorney and other local officials are much more responsible for police action than the president is.

And just because a state always votes for one party, it doesn't mean your vote is meaningless. Primaries are the real elections for a solid red/blue state. Look at what happened with AOC.

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Originally Posted by O'Ryan (Post 884017)
To hear this conversation four years after it was had, a month after the murder of George Floyd... I can't come up with a good way to describe it other than this would be a very good episode to revisit given the current protests here and around the world.

Are you saying the George Floyd protests are similar to what Elsa was doing?


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