1059: Daddy Dearest

[rodimusprime]

Originally Posted by punk'n

I know K&C are always saying that you really can't understand other people's families/parents but this episode really reiterates that point for me. I can't imagine my mom secretly hating the person I've chosen to be my mate and thinking that she knows better than I do what I need from that person (ie religion, children, etc.) but I guess I just lucked out in that department.

And I didn't vote in the poll because I do believe that Chemda probably does know her family best, but I can't wrap my head around someone hating Keith so much.

Glad they're back! I missed my KATG!

In all fairness pops hates the idea of Keith more than the individual. Don't know if that's better or worse.

[rodimusprime]

Originally Posted by 1goodI

I can't count "staring" and "guilt" as a bad childhood. Every kid gets a little emotional abuse from their parents. Look at how fucked up you are and what you parents did to you, well your grandparents did worse to them.

Anytime my parents could not or would not get me something I wanted I was quickly reminded "I never told you life would be fair" and my Dad would throw in "You're out of here at 18."

Once you consider yourself an adult you lose the right to blame your parents for anything. Grow up and get over it.

It was more than staring but I take your point. It's not like they are letting it limit them. They are just openly talking about just like you just did.

It just seems like so much of this nonsense stems from religion. Religion and the culture around it has ruined a lot of relationships.

[Junkenstein]

Originally Posted by punk'n

I know K&C are always saying that you really can't understand other people's families/parents but this episode really reiterates that point for me. I can't imagine my mom secretly hating the person I've chosen to be my mate and thinking that she knows better than I do what I need from that person (ie religion, children, etc.) but I guess I just lucked out in that department.

You totally lucked out, punks. I usually never got along with partners families. They generally openly despised me, and sometimes told it to my face.

With the one i'm with now, i'm walking on eggshells and trying to be as nice, formal and polite as i can be. But it's more of a non-relationship really.

And most of my friends have similar problems, even after marriage. I know one guy who's super friends with her girl's parents and i always found it weird and creepy.

[faux pas]

What did Obama do to deserve the nobel prize? He managed to postpone the race war for at least five years!

Also, I have no trouble believing Chemda's father hates Keith, but I would also say this type of behavior isn't exclusive to ethnic minorities (or dark people like Chemda said).

[1goodI]

Originally Posted by rodimusprime

It was more than staring but I take your point. It's not like they are letting it limit them. They are just openly talking about just like you just did.

It just seems like so much of this nonsense stems from religion. Religion and the culture around it has ruined a lot of relationships.

I get your point completely. (yes that's right on this forums it is possible to agree with someone and acknowledge it). On a personal side I think I'm abrasive to those adults that boo-hoo over their childhood. Once a person is over 30 I think its up to them to get over it.

I agree with the religious aspect. I think the more religious the household the more bitter the adult. Since God wasn't forced upon me and my parents didn't baby me and had expectations I turned out to be a reasonably well balanced adult. So thanks DAD for making me fix the roof drunk and thanks MOM for beating me with the hot wheels track. I deserved it all.

[josi]

Not all families are the same, and not all parents love their kids all the time. I believe Chemda's side of the story. She may get carried away sometimes, and I think it can, at times, sound like she "likes" the fact that she gets to complain about her family, what if she had actually grown up in the middle east... I dont think it would have been a stretch to say she could be "traded away". that was funny....

They started this story right after saying how crappy the middle east was cause they couldnt say "sexy time" on TV and Keith expects right after that, for us to agree Chemda is so out of place saying that her family is strict.

[Eightball]

It's natural to have a hard time with the in-laws at first. You're not only not good enough you're also taking their kid away from them. Keith should stand up for future dad in law, as should Chemda to Keith's folks.

This is who you are, you two are together, and that's the end of the story.

They would have a lot less tension if they just realized that they were adults, and these are their adult decisions. Nothing else should matter.

If you don't grow up, you'll always be their little kid who needs to be steered in the right direction.




Oh crap, here comes the flu... I have to go hide.

[Junkenstein]

I'll come out as a comedy nerd but i'm noticing more and more.

When Keith does the douchebag jokester voice he sounds like Neil Hamburger. Even with the little "Hmm?" at the end of his sentence. So cool.

anyway, on the poll... The more chemda talked about her side the more i understood her point. The background she described is usual in half Italy too. The whole attitude of her father is the exact same one i've met in alot of my partner's families too. Sad but totally true.

[Tronya]

Thanks for reading my email.
I'm glad you guys liked the cakes.

I got a warm, fuzzy feeling when you said you changed your desktop picture to the katg cake. haha!

[Junkenstein]

on the djs thing: i did some dj work for parties and shows and both me and other guys had some basic stuff that we were asked to play to get the party going ("YMCA" is always in there) but when the whole thing is over we all played some hipper (or some times totally crappier) stuff to "clear the room".

My favourite room cleaners were Faith no more"'s edge of the world and Johnny Cash version of "Hurt". Good songs AND amazing party killers.