1199: The Pursuit of Happiness

King of Assholes · 06-15-2010, 10:21 AM

Maybe I'm an asshole, or maybe I'm just the first one to mention this. I use the pop out player to listen to KATG while at work. It's awesome and really convenient, but there's a problem. Whenever a KATG TV episode is released it makes the player useless. The videos never load and the player just stays in a state of "loading video". So I can't skip it, or select another episodes to listen to.

Is this just me that has this problem or is that thing flawed?

Jameira · 06-15-2010, 11:11 AM

I think having some space is fine and maybe the man or the woman needs to go sit in the man/woman cave for a bit if they are going through something. That way they can go think uninterrupted and not take out their stuff on the other person.

I also think guys/ladies nights out are good too. As long as there is trust there shouldn't be a problem. It also gives you a chance to miss one another and bring back some fresh convo into the relationship.

I think guys/ladies trips are good too, again as long as there is trust. Missing one another is a beautiful thing. You come back appreciating each other.

Now when you start craving alone time or time away from your partner I think that is a problem.

invader · 06-15-2010, 11:19 AM

I'm willing to bet that at least 75% of people aren't happy in the relationship that they are in. It's why so many people cheat, its why so many marriages fail. I've been perpetually single for almost all my adult life (I'm 28 now) not for any other reason than I chose to be. I can't remember how many times I've gotten into conversations like; "If you're single, how do you having sex?" Which leads me to believe that most people are in love less relationships just for regular sex.
The show also reminded me of how I'm the only single guy at the job I work at now (its a very small retail store), and without exaggeration everyone, regardless of their gender, has said to me at least once, that they are jealous of me because when I leave work I get to go home a do whatever I want. That I don't have to deal with anyone's bullshit. I always ask them; "why not just end it?" and everyone always responds the same; "Its not that easy." or "at least I'm not alone."

WTF

tuttle88 · 06-15-2010, 11:50 AM

You know I'm really starting to see holes in their relationship.

punk'n · 06-15-2010, 12:02 PM

I'm on Chemda's side, I need an insane amount of space in a relationship. Maybe not 1,100 miles....but a guest house would be just fine.

scottperezfox · 06-15-2010, 01:19 PM

From the dawn of time men have retreated to their garages, home offices, and golf courses to escape the wife, if only just for a little while. Seems healthy. Women go to salons and shit. Or wherever they go.

rodimusprime · 06-15-2010, 03:37 PM

Once you stop staying in the same bed randomly, I think there is something wrong. No one is together 24/7 but life provides natural breaks. I can understand a vacation with friends or something but just randomly needing 4 or 5 days away by yourself? Seems like the sign that leads to the off ramp of the relationship highway.

I guess in the end it's all about preferences. I just wouldn't date someone that seemed to randomly need "space" and "time alone". I'm probably just too needy and insecure to understand it's not them running away from me but their coping mechanism for life.

natrasha · 06-15-2010, 03:43 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Sparrow

It is about being happy.

hells yes

regarding the poll
I think it is important to retain your own identity.
In any relationship it is vital that each person has their own life and friends that aren't completely tied to their partner.
I feel that if you manage to keep your own identity and day to day space, then you will be less likely to one day go OMFuckingGAWD I need to get out of here so I can have some goddamn space!!

on the poll i voted with Keith
I get where Chamda is coming from, but she was looking at it in such an extreme way that I agree more with Keith on this one

bluecrucial · 06-15-2010, 05:21 PM

What I never understood about the argument about how great the tax breaks are after a wedding is:

You still have to pay off the wedding

Seeing as how many weddings I've heard of or been to were close to $20,000, the $500 tax break seems like a really bad bonus.

Ignoring interest, you wouldn't even see that great benefit until your 41st year in.

standardman · 06-15-2010, 07:10 PM

Judging by Manchester at night, those courses are needed.

View Poll Results: Re: Staying in a guest house away from your significant other:
Chemda's right; getting space here and again is fine.	79	40.10%
Keith's right; that's just too much.	118	59.90%
Voters: 197. You may not vote on this poll

06-15-2010, 10:21 AM	#11 (permalink)
King of Assholes Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: DC Posts: 684	Maybe I'm an asshole, or maybe I'm just the first one to mention this. I use the pop out player to listen to KATG while at work. It's awesome and really convenient, but there's a problem. Whenever a KATG TV episode is released it makes the player useless. The videos never load and the player just stays in a state of "loading video". So I can't skip it, or select another episodes to listen to. Is this just me that has this problem or is that thing flawed?
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06-15-2010, 11:11 AM	#12 (permalink)
Jameira Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Stratford, CT Posts: 97	Space in a relationship I think having some space is fine and maybe the man or the woman needs to go sit in the man/woman cave for a bit if they are going through something. That way they can go think uninterrupted and not take out their stuff on the other person. I also think guys/ladies nights out are good too. As long as there is trust there shouldn't be a problem. It also gives you a chance to miss one another and bring back some fresh convo into the relationship. I think guys/ladies trips are good too, again as long as there is trust. Missing one another is a beautiful thing. You come back appreciating each other. Now when you start craving alone time or time away from your partner I think that is a problem.
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06-15-2010, 11:19 AM	#13 (permalink)
invader Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Bronx, NY Posts: 578	I'm willing to bet that at least 75% of people aren't happy in the relationship that they are in. It's why so many people cheat, its why so many marriages fail. I've been perpetually single for almost all my adult life (I'm 28 now) not for any other reason than I chose to be. I can't remember how many times I've gotten into conversations like; "If you're single, how do you having sex?" Which leads me to believe that most people are in love less relationships just for regular sex. The show also reminded me of how I'm the only single guy at the job I work at now (its a very small retail store), and without exaggeration everyone, regardless of their gender, has said to me at least once, that they are jealous of me because when I leave work I get to go home a do whatever I want. That I don't have to deal with anyone's bullshit. I always ask them; "why not just end it?" and everyone always responds the same; "Its not that easy." or "at least I'm not alone." WTF Last edited by invader; 06-15-2010 at 11:44 AM. Reason: I no good at writing.
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06-15-2010, 11:50 AM	#14 (permalink)
tuttle88 Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Oakland, CA formerly Adelaide, Australia Posts: 536	You know I'm really starting to see holes in their relationship.
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06-15-2010, 12:02 PM	#15 (permalink)
punk'n Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Kansas City, MO Posts: 2,238	I'm on Chemda's side, I need an insane amount of space in a relationship. Maybe not 1,100 miles....but a guest house would be just fine.
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scottperezfox Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Brooklyn Posts: 384	From the dawn of time men have retreated to their garages, home offices, and golf courses to escape the wife, if only just for a little while. Seems healthy. Women go to salons and shit. Or wherever they go.
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06-15-2010, 03:37 PM	#17 (permalink)
rodimusprime Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Posts: 1,374	Once you stop staying in the same bed randomly, I think there is something wrong. No one is together 24/7 but life provides natural breaks. I can understand a vacation with friends or something but just randomly needing 4 or 5 days away by yourself? Seems like the sign that leads to the off ramp of the relationship highway. I guess in the end it's all about preferences. I just wouldn't date someone that seemed to randomly need "space" and "time alone". I'm probably just too needy and insecure to understand it's not them running away from me but their coping mechanism for life. __________________ www.theblackguywhotips.com www.twitter.com/rodimusprime The Black Guy Who Tips Podcast
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06-15-2010, 05:21 PM	#19 (permalink)
bluecrucial Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 649	What I never understood about the argument about how great the tax breaks are after a wedding is: You still have to pay off the wedding Seeing as how many weddings I've heard of or been to were close to $20,000, the $500 tax break seems like a really bad bonus. Ignoring interest, you wouldn't even see that great benefit until your 41st year in.
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06-15-2010, 07:10 PM	#20 (permalink)
standardman Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Manchester, England Posts: 3,690	Judging by Manchester at night, those courses are needed.
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