1410: No Dancing

[frankrid]

I'm curious. do you never masturbate or have dreams of a sexual nature? I started to deal with low testosterone a year or so ago. It seemed much of my interest in other aspects of life diminished. I now call androgel my "give a shit" medicine.

[Junkenstein]

i already found a diminished sex drive because of meds nightmarish, so i cant conceive asexuality.

i believe it exists, for cases like yours where a traumatic experience nulls the sex drive, but i also tend to think that sex drive can and has to be restored. the diea of aswexuality seems like not finding the right person or the right flow and labeling it as something impossible. like female inability to reach orgasms (which i stil do not believe is as diffused as some say it is)

i just find the idea of not having a sex drive like not being hungry or needing air to breathe.

[swiggy]

Originally Posted by BrianAlt

Do you want to be in a committed relationship? Do you want to ever have children? Just wondering.

I would love to be in a committed relationship but I seem, due to this Asexuality, can't wrap my brain past the friendship phase. I've even made out with someone, gave a guy a hand job... Nothing on my end.

However if this does happen (and I do hope it does, I would love to experience, if I ever can, a relationship) my fear would be how we would be able to satisfy the other partner's needs and they will go elsewhere to be satisfied sexually. I can do the sexual acts, I'm just not aroused by them, so I would see myself being a disappointment as I know most partners get off getting their partner off. Especially if I end up with a male; this is a big thing for them (no offense if anyone is by that comment). If I am lucky I'll find someone who'll take me for me.

As for kids; physically I have no idea if I'm able to convince due to the ovary thing. As of right now, no... But if I ever would want kids I know I have many options.

Originally Posted by frankrid

I'm curious. do you never masturbate or have dreams of a sexual nature? I started to deal with low testosterone a year or so ago. It seemed much of my interest in other aspects of life diminished. I now call androgel my "give a shit" medicine.

I've never had a wet dream or any sexual related dream with even kissing. As for masturbation... I can count on my one hand how many times I've tried. Once I tried for 3 hours and I had no orgasm (I even used vibrating apparel I had) just my spit (haha sorry for or your welcome for the visual). I tried porn; exploring even more taboo porn to see maybe I just am into nasty shit but there was nothing at all. The last time I tried was almost a year ago.

Thanks for the testosterone mention, next doctor visit I will bring it up to the doctor.

Originally Posted by Junkenstein

i just find the idea of not having a sex drive like not being hungry or needing air to breathe.

I know it is hard to believe; this is why there is also the possibility of it's in there and just off, and someone/some drug can turn it on. I actually am hoping for this option because like closeted gays it's very awkward for people who are like me to talk about this kinda stuff especially trying to explain why I'm not in a relationship with someone yet. If not, I just have to accept what I am.

Thank you for the very quick replies!

[punk'n]

Originally Posted by swiggy

vibrating apparel

[BrianAlt]

Originally Posted by punk'n

I'm thinking apparatus?

[swiggy]

Vibrating toothbrush. LOL Sorry no dildos or vibrators. If I can't even get me off I don't want to waste my money.

[Junkenstein]

vibratos are different than vibrating objects in general, though.

In my opinion, it has to be with being mentally involved too. orgasms are also in the head.

[swiggy]

Originally Posted by Junkenstein

vibratos are different than vibrating objects in general, though.

In my opinion, it has to be with being mentally involved too. orgasms are also in the head.

That is also another possibility. With a traumatic childhood and now a recent mental diagnosis it could be hurting more than helping the arousal problem. But, I was never aroused to begin with in youth when my friends around me were. Definitely something to discuss with my new medical team.

[Bucho]

Lauren was hilarious in this episode. A lot of playful and funny responses and really quick.