1891: Playboy

[Enunciated Piffle]

Originally Posted by Sparrow

he's always told me the truth .

Did he warn you about boys? Did he convey how important it is to stay in school and not end up like your aunts who are both in emotionally abusive relationships with kids from different fathers?

[Sparrow]

mhm. there was that one where he berated me and another one that sucked my dick. they're both gone now.

[Sparrow]

Originally Posted by Enunciated Piffle

Did he warn you about boys?

no. he never placed in me an irrational fear to keep me from getting knocked up but invariably resulting in a challenging time accepting real intimacy from men.

[Enunciated Piffle]

Originally Posted by Sparrow

my dad is great.

I love the notion that you can judge me, but if I respond, somehow I'm the asshole.

I'm happy your father was great. To be honest, I was under the impression he was otherwise.

My parents sucked. That is why I make an extra effort with my daughter. Also, just because I'm not politically correct, (like yourself - I find that shit silly btw - phony indignation etc) does not make me a bad father.

I resent the fact that while I respect your posts; you always shit on mine. Oh well. If you hate me - fine. I've been nothing but nice to you. I'm done trying.

[Sparrow]

Originally Posted by Enunciated Piffle

I love the notion that you can judge me, but if I respond, somehow I'm the asshole.

I'm happy your father was great. To be honest, I was under the impression he was otherwise.

My parents sucked. That is why I make an extra effort with my daughter.

i love it, too.

you said point blank your love for her was conditional and that anyone that says otherwise is lying. is that your extra mile? giving her expectations of perfection or daddy won't love her?

[Enunciated Piffle]

Originally Posted by Sparrow

no. he never placed in me an irrational fear to keep me from getting knocked up but invariably resulting in a challenging time accepting real intimacy from men.

So you seriously think me telling my 11 yr old daughter to avoid getting pregnant, (she has no idea aabout sex) just me saying 'Don't end up like your aunts' is actually doing irreparable harm??

I hadn't thought about the intimacy thing but...all the women in her mother's family are in very bad relationships. How do I avoid the same for my daughter if I don't address it??

[Enunciated Piffle]

Originally Posted by Sparrow

giving her expectations of perfection or daddy won't love her?

Shit. Maybe I'm a bad father then.

I don't know how else to parent her. I want her to graduate HS. Graduate college. Not get pregnant before marriage.

How the fuck do I get her to do these things if I don't communicate them?? You're a woman. I'm curious.

[Sparrow]

telling her all boys are evil doesn't address it. all boys aren't evil because of her aunts bad choices.

the best protection she can have is her self-worth. that best come from your love before the guys looking to get into her pants. they'll tell her they love her no matter what. she'll be looking for that.

[Enunciated Piffle]

Man, I do that. I hug my kid and tell her I love her all the time. Her mother does, too.

I know that my kid is going to have some sort of fuck up from my parenting. It's almost inevitable. I try and read up on psychology and ask other parents questions and constantly questioning 'are my actions going to fuck my kid up later in life?'

Your saying that hugs is all she needs, huh? I don't know. I just don't know.

For your information, raising a human being is incredibly hard. You say all this great stuff. It's different when you have this little being that you love so much in front of you and you just worry, worry , worry.

Is she gonna get knocked up? Kidnapped? Enough friends? Enough activities? Too much xbox? Her best friend is a bad influence. Should she be listening to Katy Perry those lyrics are all about sex! All this shit.

Well, now that you've helped establish that I'm an awful father; who wants to adopt my 11 yr old daughter?? She says please and thank you. Very caring. Lots of empathy. Plays violin. On the honor roll, (cuz her mean old dad pushes her) and probably going to have intimacy problems later in life. Anyone?

[Keith]

I'm a little confused by Sparrow and the great relationship with her father also.