2094: Candy Crush

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With Liz Miele – Sex with friends; telling someone you love them; how to make a friend; comic meltdowns; health issues

Guest:
Liz Miele



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[Dean from Australia]

Liz Miele is like sunshine.

Any bloke who'd fuck her around is an idiot.

[Enunciated Piffle]

Hmmm. Not so sure.

I feel like it's more: Liz Miele is like sunshine.

Liz Miele needs to quit dating weak bitches.

[thirteen]

Keith, you're mostly right that if someone doesn't reciprocate "I love you", it's bad news, but Chemda and Liz are correct that you wouldn't necessarily break up with someone right after they don't say "I love you" back. It depends on what's going on with the individual, and if they're able to break out of a self-deprecating habit or commit when they're in a bad place, emotionally.

One of my friends had this happen in her early 20s. Her "I love you" wasn't reciprocated at first, and she and her partner had a discussion about it. She decided to stick around. After about 8 months her partner said "I love you" and meant it, and they're still together. It's been about 4 years. It can take time. It depends on if you care enough about the other person to have patience. If you can see it going somewhere. 4 months is very short for some people.

Of course, there's also a point after which it's too long to keep waiting around. From the stories I've heard on the show, it seems like New York relationships are sped up.

[ghauck]

I told God I love him, still waiting for an answer so I can reply to the poll.......

[flerchin]

Married 14 years. I said it first and it wasn't reciprocated for about a month. I knew I was early, but didn't care. Not gonna play games or put up with them.

[Scumhook]

Originally Posted by flerchin

I knew I was early, but didn't care.

Thus, the Flerchins sexual paradigm was set...

[Tomrl94]

There's just an a type of honestly about Liz that's so refreshing that you can't help, but like her.

[Mattman]

... So one day I courageously said "I love you". We had been serious for 3-4 months. The reply .... "Thank you"

Well at least she was polite!

The backstory is that we met at work 15 years previously. I went off and got married. One child. Divorced the first wife, was single parent. Met up with ex-colleague again. Long distance relationship (Hong Kong to Singapore). Then I arranged to do a project in Singapore for 6 weeks, started going out. Got serious, Said the "LOVE" thing. Went back to Hong Kong. She came to stay. She FINALLY said it too. Arranged another project in Singapore, Got engaged. One year later married and we now have 2 kids of our own, ages 11 nd 12. My other daughter is 23 and living in Singapore.

So it all worked out! Good thing she was polite!