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08-27-2015, 05:02 AM | #11 (permalink) | |
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To me that's the main reason Ashley Madison sucked. It was a cheating site that had no one to really cheat with. All they were selling was anonymity and now they fucked that part up as well. They were basically taking advantage of men who wanted to cheat but didn't know how to and giving them an option that was, literally, too good to be true. |
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Almost None of the Women in the Ashley Madison Database Ever Used the Site His methods made sense e.g. user emails ending in @ashleymadison.com --> probably fake, he checked IP adresses, whether the users checked in to read their messages |
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Splitting the Check
Weirdness with a joint check is universal, but I think the hassle with separate checks is New York thing. I've lived in Chicago and Phoenix, and it is completely normal and expected for the waiter to give everyone a separate check. There can be two people or 15, and the waiter will ask in the beginning if we want separate checks. It is not awkward to say you want a separate check since we are all so used to it. It is in the waiter's best interest to hand out separate checks, since ending up short means the waiter doesn't get enough tip.
I have run into a few restaurants that oppose separate checks, but that is rare. And yes, on those rare instances we can't get separate checks we always wind up short. At my sister's birthday we were $40 short, and everyone stared at me like a weirdo when I told the table. Guess who had to cover it. |
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Even with them asking the table if you want separate checks, are you happily the first person to say 'yes?'
Or is there some awkwardness for a second: "Should we..." "Well if we..." "I don't know if..." |
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Never mind remembering a 10-year-old password.
And by the way Lanfear, as a waiter, it's a pain in the ASS to give separate checks to large tables. You split an appetizer with someone. Now what do I do. Make you feel uncomfortable so I know whose check to put the appetizer on? You're out to lunch. (No pun.) |
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I would say the short answer to "what kind of empathy" is general for-all-people-always empathy. Also potentially the they-who-are-without-sin-cast-the-first-stone type of empathy. All people make mistakes. Some don't intend to as much. Some are more negligent. But because I know I've made choices that have hurt people and appreciate it when I am forgiven and understood, I do my best to do the same for others. Quote:
First, I will say that the definitions of words are always shifting and never completely contain the same connotations to every person, or even groups of people. Marriage used to mean a man owning a woman. Now for many people it means whatever the people married want it to. Yes, the classic version of an affair involves someone not knowing... But some couples might have don't-ask-don't-tell relationships where not knowing IS part of the deal. And those couples might be using the website in an authorized fashion, but now the leak makes it so plenty of people outside of the marriage (who they don't want to know about their private business) might find out. Also, and I'd need to reference particular Dan Savage columns and podcasts to go into all the details, but there are situations where for various reasons, sometimes cheating is the least of the bad options in a situation where people are financially dependent or other types of situations... cheaters aren't always monsters. Sometimes as Dan says it's better for people to "do what they have to to stay married and stay sane" (paraphrasing a bit). One other major point that Dan pointed out is that there are countries where adultery is punishable by death. Suicides have occurred as a result of this leak. This is back to the empathy answer again, with this point being that whatever you think about cheaters potentially "getting what they deserve," I don't think most of us agree that they deserve death. I don't dispute that there are a lot of people doing secret, unauthorized, harmful things with the use of that site. I'm not a fan of people breaking promises and hurting people. I'm just also not a fan of shaming people for breaking promises and hurting people. (As far as the anti-gay portion of it, I'll reiterate that marriage today, I believe, means whatever the people in it want it to mean. For some people, it's very important. For some people, it's all about having a family. For some people, it's all about health care or taxes. For some people, it's a complicated combination. I don't think that some people who don't take marriage seriously means anything for people who do.) I might not have addressed everything, but mainly I just want to re-emphasize the position that kindness, forgiveness, and empathy are, in my opinion, always potentially practical and helpful to the person providing them. None of these things are required, and maybe they are more difficult in some times for some people, but for me, they are something that I aim for whenever possible. Quote:
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