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06-27-2017, 08:53 AM | #11 (permalink) | |
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It sounds like Chemda wants to have some type of relationship and is not fully ready to completely drop it - but only she can decide on that. Her mom won't change easily and most definitely won't be able to have "woke discourse" via email - honestly that is a lot to ask for from older generation with language barrier thrown in the mix. So it might have to be phone or in person. |
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06-27-2017, 10:29 AM | #12 (permalink) | |
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Parental relationships are relationships Toxic relationships are toxic relationships What is the point of "just saying hello" if there is nothing of substance beyond the hello... At that point you have no more of a relationship with a parent than you do with the corner store owner... you probably have a better relationship with the store owner at that point. Stay strong Chemda, you are living YOUR life in YOUR truth. You already removed a physical toxic object out of your body, emotionally toxic people can be removed from your life too. |
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It depends on how much she really wants to work this relationship out. I'm only posting this stuff because again, it's heartbreaking to see Chemda go thru this, so I'm hoping she can get to some point of resolution -- meaning she can feel good inside about her mom and not so agitated.
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06-27-2017, 11:09 AM | #15 (permalink) |
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Some things can't be fixed. Some things will never be okay. Of course she'll always wish it were but that's wishing for her mom to be a different person who could accept her for who she is.
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a starting point to what? there's not a lot healthy gonna pop out of barren soil. the ball is in her Mom's court to further this thing. she's made /no/ effort after Chemda made herself very clear.
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06-27-2017, 11:20 AM | #17 (permalink) |
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Well -- I feel like Mrs K made an effort by emailing Chemda and trying to call her, and that is her way of reaching out. Sorry to be arguing with all you guys here, I guess I'm more of an optimist about how relationships can evolve over time. Mrs K is not going to change, Chemda is not going to change, neither should HAVE to change ... but I believe there can be a new kind of relationship forged. Like how it sounds like Keith has come to some sort of workable truce with his Dad even tho he had to dig holes.
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OK, story re "who lost a parent?" My wife justifiably cut off contact with her father in a similarly toxic relationship. He died, she got depressed and has had psychosomatic illnesses for years. I guess my point is, don't think of maintaining surfacy contact as a favor to Mrs. K - it's a favor to future Chemda and future Hennessy. Cutting off contact doesn't change them, and for a few years you can feel justified - but eventually, I believe it'll feel like the wrong decision.
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