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View Poll Results: Was Keith right or wrong to not make any phone calls during The Landmark Forum?
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Old 08-27-2017, 10:30 PM   #41 (permalink)
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The reason I went is because my life felt unmanageable. I relate to the patterns that people in the rooms were talking about. I was trying something that was recommended to me and it fit.


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Old 08-28-2017, 11:35 AM   #42 (permalink)
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The reason I went is because my life felt unmanageable. I relate to the patterns that people in the rooms were talking about. I was trying something that was recommended to me and it fit.


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Was part of it a thinking "why do I keep attracting people with this negative influence/pattern into my life repeatedly?" Because I understand that. My boyfriend's mom had said to me last year after another ruined friendship with someone "why does this keep happening to me" and I pointed out all the friendships she's mourning that ended, the common denominator was her, and the fact that she kept taking in wounded people under her wing - that was what was in common with all of them, that she took on some sort of caretaking/maternal role in that friendship. It was a huge eye-opener for her.

These meetings could help people, whether dealing with alcoholics or not, it's a form of free therapy and if it's helping you patch things up in your life then good! It's made me consider if I should check it out re: issues with my mother's alcoholism, even though i've cut off contact, it could be helpful regardless.
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Old 09-02-2017, 11:50 PM   #43 (permalink)
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It took me 14 months to get this bad boy here. (14 months cuz I forgot my anniversary was in July)
Got it on Friday after qualifying for the first time as well.



I swear to god if Keith gets a chip for just showing up I'm gonna be soooo fucking pis- Uh. I mean. Supportive. I'm gonna be so fucking supportive. <3
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Old 09-03-2017, 06:21 AM   #44 (permalink)
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Was part of it a thinking "why do I keep attracting people with this negative influence/pattern into my life repeatedly?" Because I understand that. My boyfriend's mom had said to me last year after another ruined friendship with someone "why does this keep happening to me" and I pointed out all the friendships she's mourning that ended, the common denominator was her, and the fact that she kept taking in wounded people under her wing - that was what was in common with all of them, that she took on some sort of caretaking/maternal role in that friendship. It was a huge eye-opener for her.



These meetings could help people, whether dealing with alcoholics or not, it's a form of free therapy and if it's helping you patch things up in your life then good! It's made me consider if I should check it out re: issues with my mother's alcoholism, even though i've cut off contact, it could be helpful regardless.


It made me realize a lot of things. Mostly with patterns in my life.
I always learn something from the rooms.

If you've thought about going, that's a reason to go. If you think someone else should go to (any) meeting, usually you need one too. It's fun like that.

Let us know if you try it. Would love to hear what you thought.

Also, for those trying meetings for the first time, they will suggest to go to 6 different meetings before deciding. That's a great idea. When I first went, one of the first times I spoke I said something like this "so we all just share and no one responds to us?! I don't get it. I want answers". Someone spoke to me after that meeting and recommended other ones that ended up fitting me better.
My point is that in those rooms you can tell the truth. Tell your real thoughts so that you can get the clarity you need. I fact, it's very common to start shares with "I didn't even want to come here today".

Also, I'm so thrilled that our community is embracing life like this. Supporting each other in what a lot of people remain in the dark and ashamed by. Whatever we all went and go through, it helps to be heard and loved. It's needed for survival. Thank you all for being here!

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Old 09-03-2017, 06:03 PM   #45 (permalink)
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yeah I totally had that moment with my first meeting. Nothing felt right and I didn't get why anyone would go to these things.

It was a SLA meeting, not CoDa. I, too, was pissed and confused, when no one responded to these guys desperate stories of hiring hookers multiple times a week and feeling powerless to stop and not liking the program. Like, why even talk about it if no one is going to tell you how to fix yourself right????
Nah.

In the end that meeting wasn't for me at all. I didn't connect to the mission or the other people and they all connected in the battle against sex. It wasn't for months that I would find my current regular meeting and feel heard and understood and know that no one was going to give me answers but that was OK. I was still learning and gaining experiences.

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