2804: BOONE!
 

with Hannah Boone – The return of Two Drunk Minimum; Hannah’s parents met in a mental institution, anguish followed; 1 in 10 people have fetal alcohol spectrum disorders; dating apps and odd encounters; NYC’s false tsunami warning; Trump’s military parade; Elon Musk’s space car; Nicole Eggert accuses Scott Baio of molestation when she was 14

Guest:
Hannah Boone
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men are fucking horrible
but so are people
but men are the worst

I think dating apps get a lot of ghosted conversations because you have a bunch of people like Chemda out there wanting to be part of the flirting game, but then it gets too real with an actual meetup plan and they ghost.

I don't think the majority of ghosters are Chemdas. In fact I'm pretty sure if Chemda was on Tinder and you called her out on "just wanting to be in the flirting game" she would actually have that conversation with you out of respect, and not ghost.

I think people are just shitty and incapable or unwilling to be confrontational in any way, so instead of saying "hey I don't think we're a match" they take the easier route of complete avoidance and then justify it by saying that "OMG WHATS THE BIG DEAL I DONT EVEN KNOW YOU!"

Or, and here’s another take, PEOPLE ARE JUST FUCKING WEIRDOS.

I understand that telling someone you aren't interested is the proper and mature way to end things.

But if you have hundreds of matches and are chatting with like 10-15 guys at a time. Its not feasible to individually have those kinds of long drawn out confrontational conversations about why you aren't interested enough to meet them on a date.

Idk if its the same for men but dating online can be like having another part-time job just due to the number of people trying to have conversations with you at the same time. Scheduling dates can also be draining.

There are only so many days in a week. If you have a life outside of dating then some of those people just aint gonna get a date.

I think ghosting just comes with the online dating territory.

What they were referring to on the show (Keith's experience anyway) was when you are already having a long drawn out coversation, fun banter, etc and then you're ghosted.

in the situation they were referring to (some established convo or banter already) I don't think saying "hey I don't think we're a match,sorry" constitutes a long drawn out anything. It's perfectly reasonable to say that and then move on without the expectation that you're going to have to engage any further than that.

Except for when I come back from probably masturbating in the shower and say we’re not a match as well, implying that I will kill you.

Yes, that would be reasonable. And when talking to a sane person it wouldn't be a long drawn out thing. Should be pretty cut and dry.

But then there is my reality where I have to realize that men on the internet are often not reasonable or sane.

I didn't start off ghosting. But after a few "but why not!?" (then proceed to try to explain to me why I'm wrong about not being interested) and "OK I'll do better" (then act like now they are gonna be a completely different person than they were five minutes ago) and whatever hurt feeling insults thrown at me.... I stopped caring about being polite. It's been much easier to just stop replying. The most shit I get now is "well damn.. It was nice talking to you"

But still, I would AT LENGTH explain to you whyyyy this is inappropriate and...
Jkjk id ghost you