I have a collection of items men I'll never see again have left in my apartment/dorm/car. Whether they actually spent the night or not. Scarves, shoes, brushes, razors, sweatshirt, pants, etc. I usually just throw it out or donate it if I haven't seen or talked to them in months. Except the scarf... The scarf is nice.

People don't only leave things when they spend the night cause they have an ulterior motive.

I wouldn't be surprised if she has a toothbrush at all the men's/women's houses she spends the night. Cause that just sounds efficient to me lol

Since you're taking this so personal, why not explain why you didn't ask or acknowledge that you were going to leave things at a person's house first?

Socks? That's nothing. Mermaid collects shoes and pants in the first week!

I feel like the cute "I don't wanna talk about where this is going" thing only counts when you aren't having sex.

If we are fucking I need to know exactly where everyone's head is at.

Anything else just seems like a dangerous game to play.

Pimping ain't easy.

Well look at that. Who knew your situation would be totally and completely different?

Aye yie yie...

It's really common for black men to wear a pair of shorts underneath their pants. They get hot or want to get comfortable. They take off the pants but are still fully dress.

Spare shoes in the car. Usually Nike slides. Might have had sneakers for the date or event but changed into the slides to chill later on alone. Usually leave in sneakers with plans to come back for the slides after work or class or something.


Shorts + slides = Netflix and chill attire

The only difference is that I am willing to ask the person I'm fucking directly what their intentions are.

I don't try to hide behind jokes and passive aggressive statements.

If I can fuck em then I can ask them a direct question.

Well it just seems to me that getting your knickers in a twist over a toothbrush or coat is a great way to mess up a relationship before it even starts.

What's the worst that can happen? You're compatible and you live happily ever after, you have sex but nothing comes of it, she takes home her stuff or you chuck it out.

If this is about protecting your feelings then that's something you need to sort out. Why sleep with someone if you don't want some sort of relationship?

with andrea. Since she asked to leave the coat beforehand and Keith didn't give a hard no thats where it moves to being Keith's issue that he didn't own up to in the moment.