2991: Fashionably Gay w/ Ashley Gavin
 

Chemda is 2 years tumor-free; dating closeted people; diversity in commercials; man shoots own groin in Walmart; TV stealing jokes; reacting to gay comedians; Pope Francis on the fashionability of homosexuality; Baby, It’s Cold Outside banned; Hugh Hefner's auctioned items; problems with exes; TED Talks

Guest:
Ashley Gavin
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I was always on team rapey when it came to Baby, It's Cold Outside, until this season when I saw Marcia Belsky's tweet. Now when I listen, I hear this perspective:
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@MarciaBelsky

Find me in December losing friends by arguing that Baby It’s Cold Outside is not rapey and instead about a woman who wants to have sex but must make excuses for her desires & agency

as if it’s something that actually... matters

Love Ashley!

The pope hides child rapists. Fuck that dude with a rusty tetanus soaked knife.

I always enjoy Keith’s “the pope is tricking you” point. I hear people saying all the time that he so progressive just because he said “who am I to judge.” But when it come time to talk action, he says that children need heterosexual parents.

Also, how sad is this country that the pope not wanting to destroy the earth with global warming is considered super progressive.

I enjoy whenever Ashley is on.

I relate to being a feminine woman and trying to date feminine women. If a person is still very confused by their own bisexuality in their early-to-mid 30s or later, that's a red flag to me. And I come from a traditional family, so I understand how hard it is to deal with all of this. People who are confused about themselves need to figure out what they enjoy (men or women or both) and need to stop putting that on their partner. Don't seriously date someone until you figure it out. If you do have the urge to date someone while unsure, end it after a few months if you're still confused about what you want. Don't drag it on.

Being in the closet isn't necessarily the same as not being sure of yourself as I described above. That involves other people, so it can be a complicated situation. As long as your partner is integrating you into their life in some way, ex. you've met some of their friends; you don't feel you're hidden from absolutely everything and everyone. Talk about it regularly and have plans for the future.

Just posting to see my fancy new backer badge.

How did you get yours? I did the kickstarter level but I don’t have it. It’s entirely possible that I just haven’t read instructions well lol

I got an email asking me to fill in a form to confirm my forums name.

And now I have a shiny pink badge to add to my collection.

Re Heffner foundation - I think Chemda can support this one:

Hefner's Rational Sex and Drug and Policy program, meanwhile, aims to "advance a society where drug policies are grounded in science, compassion, health and human rights, which promotes the sovereignty of individuals over their minds and bodies." Recent grantees include Drug Policy Alliance and Planned Parenthood.

If Wiki can be believed, even the guy who wrote Baby It's Cold Outside seemed to think it was about a bad dude

"Loesser often introduced himself as the "evil of two Loessers" because of the role he played in the song."

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Baby,_It%27s_Cold_Outside