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No point me texting Mr Loopy his phone is normally turned off, in the car or on the mantle piece. If he was fucking someone else he’s very unlikely to answer his phone when he’s mid-cheat to take a shopping list or agree to start cooking tea anyway.

I fucking love the Rain Forest Cafe! I’m eating pizza and then a rolling thunderstorm comes in! The embarrassing thing is I dress like them. Loves me some khaki cargo shorts.

Fucking hell - I am so lonely and desperate for a relationship but already with this texting stuff - I'm out! Leave me alone forever!


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Woof. It isn't getting better as I listen. You old people sound crazy. Also, I realize I've never been good at communication, but still. Don't stress me out over falling asleep during texting. That's the fastest way to lose me. I don't need stressed!


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Yup. You and I have texted each other 24 hrs after we got the text (or more). No one ever got butt hurt.

I definitely think we need different things in romantic relationships in general.

I also have hope that my pain over this will go away. I can’t react to xerxes like he’s Hennessy. It’s not fair.

I’m trying. He’s patient about it. It’s nice.


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Stealing is 1,000% confidence. You just act like you're allowed to do what you're doing.

Absolutely.

Ahem, I hope there wasn't too much bite in my response. I can't even say for sure what level of care and attention I need in a relationship, I don't have a lot of experience. You have fresh trauma, it's gonna take some time. I think Xerxes is the right amount of patient.


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Yeah I get it. I don’t like this response in me either. I told myself all the stuff that you said also.

He is also fresh off trauma and sometimes I notice he’s not responding to me. He’s responding to something else he’s used to. It never mean or shitty from either of us. It’s something to notice and work on with ourselves. It’s habits we weren’t away if because they get normalized over time.

That’s why it’s worth it. We all come from some trauma. He and I don’t get mad at each other for the pain we came with. We don’t put it on each other. We just admit it and say what we’re doing to be better.




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I'm super bad with responding and just absent minded in general. Sometimes I type a response and just space out on hitting send or just missed. Other times I'm in the middle of doing something and think, "let me just finish this one thing and I'll respond."

That's not a conversation. If you were to do that in person, there would be some kind of acknowledgment of the other person's response, whether it's through talking or body language. Once you ask a question and receive a response, you wouldn't just walk away without reacting in any way. I understand texting is different, but some people still want a similar dynamic as it helps them understand what's going on and perhaps feel closer to their partner. Even just an "OK, gotcha" or whatever works for the two of you is fine. When it comes to communication, little things like that go a long way.

Bringing old stuff into a new relationship is a different story. Of course that should be worked on.