3180: Angel’s Advocate w/ Myq Kaplan and Andrea Allan

[Keith]

I’d like an award for knowing it was all men.

[Piscean]

Originally Posted by Jay86

I know, I'm a piece of shit.

And worse, you broke science!

[Mado]

Originally Posted by Keith

Please please please tell me if you voted NO in the poll. C’mon, dudes.

Woman here, I voted no. I was thinking of a very specific example though, I totally acknowledge that in most contexts, this action is scummy.

The poll question brought to mind a night when a very short, yet good-looking man (he was literally a jockey by profession) hit on me very sweetly and politely (rare, come-ons are usually gross). He asked to take me somewhere for a drink, and I replied that I was very sorry but I had a boyfriend. He looked very defeated and upset. He thanked me and was a gentleman. I shouldn't be impressed that someone was kind after being rejected, but I was. I'm a larger woman who went through a long awkward stage, and I know rejection well. I could tell that he had worked up the nerve to chat me up. I felt bad for him, wanted to give him an ego stroke, and truly would have taken him up on his offer if I were single. So, I gave him a little arm squeeze and a wink, and said that I absolutely would go with him if I were single, and then said goodbye. I didn't say "fuck," but I was thinking it. In this very specific case, my boyfriend was standing about 20 feet away. After the exchange, I immediately walked back to him and told him what happened. He happens to be a huge nerd who also knows rejection well. We are very secure with each other, and had been together about 8 years at the time. He thought it was sweet and had a laugh.

Now, if I just said this to a friend, or pro-actively flirted with someone and told them I'd fuck them if I were single, yeah, that be would be wrong.

[Keith]

I’m keeping my award.

[Rune]

Yeah, girl here, and I feel like a dick, but per the poll I would think flirting in the way you’ve described would happen more commonly with women actually. I say this bc men aren’t stopped by the state of your relationship, and when it’s right but it’s so wrong and the energy is just palpable, it’s kind of fun to reciprocate or even tease him by telling you’d fuck him but...

I kind of feel like that’s ok, and not worth making a huge stink out of, so long is it doesn’t cross a line, or has a line been crossed and I’m just work in progress?

[Keith]

But what?

Is it wrong or not?

Oh mother Christ.

I’m keeping my award Your Honor.

[Rune]

Originally Posted by Keith

But what?

Is it wrong or not?

Oh mother Christ.

I’m keeping my award Your Honor.

God, you’re funny.

Yeah, it’s wrong.

[porky2468]

I voted yes, but I've done it myself when I was in an unhappy relationship (shocker - we broke up a month later). Totally dick thing to do though.

All these examples of why girls have or would are silly. You're not doing it in sincerity, like "holy fuck I wish I was single because I'd bang your brains out". You're giving a cheeky wink and telling your partner straight after. Part of it being wrong is the secrecy of it.

[porky2468]

Originally Posted by Lanfear

Good for you, I think that's silly

You're being super pedantic and patronising. People can eat what they want, but if it makes it less silly for you then Apia is an omnivore but eats vegetarian meals 90% of the time.

[Keith]

Originally Posted by porky2468

I voted yes, but I've done it myself when I was in an unhappy relationship (shocker - we broke up a month later). Totally dick thing to do though.

All these examples of why girls have or would are silly. You're not doing it in sincerity, like "holy fuck I wish I was single because I'd bang your brains out". You're giving a cheeky wink and telling your partner straight after. Part of it being wrong is the secrecy of it.

PART of it?

I follow.