3546: Snoop Doggin’
 

Keith and Chemda are here with you to discuss a listener letter regarding confronting a potential cheater as well as covering your behavior as a Devil’s advocate, the nation’s shocking thoughts on mass shootings, and the power to compare anything to anything.

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Sorry I missed the Casablanca poll, I agree with Chemda! I thought the whole thing was kind of schlocky.

I said no to the poll but only because it's too little information.
Before asking for his password ask him who Carol is. That you saw this name didnt think much of it in the moment but it'd still in your head.
See how he reacts. Normal? Or suspicious.

Being really honest is a surprisingly great weapon.
Your feelings are valid. Don't hide them.
( Apia, in a 16 year relationship)

I'm leaning toward "no" in the poll. If you are cheating, don't you turn that screen popup off so you don't have awkward TXTs to explain?

On the location sharing front, the wife and I share location. We also share with the 2 daughters. If wife is gone for hours longer than expected, I like to check to see that she's okay. Yep, she's at Costco. Or, if I know she's on the way home, I'll start dinner or whatever so it's ready when she gets home.

I'm with Apia on this one. Just ask who she is. If answer is like not sketch as fuck then move on with your life. If you get sketch as fuck vibes then move to step 2. If this is someone you trust enough to want to live with and potentially marriage material the default should be trust but to put your mind at ease...verify with a simple non-judgemental fact finding conversation. Doesn't have to be a whole built up thing. K.I.S.S.

On location sharing. Me and my partner both have location sharing turned on and have alerts etc built into our home server about each others geofencing stuff (mostly just to trigger things when about home). This is a security measure primarily and we both know around bdays and xmas that we don't check these things unless there is a reason to (not home on time etc). This has never been an issue and even when first setting it up there was no concern on either party about it or even discussion on rules of when to use or anything. She can turn it off on her phone if she really wanted to but neither of us have ever had the need or any concerns.

I’d like the tracking only so that I know the last possible minute I can clean up

For the record I wasn’t responding to that weirdo

Most cheaters who are actually trying to get away with it rather than trying to get caught cuz they want out of their current relationship (many times subconciously) will have separate phones all together. And if living together will have little hiding spots for their other phones, fragrances, codoms etc that aren't applicable to their living in partner. See Chemda's ex's "man holes" she found in walls around her place.

Do they also make a bunch of fake accounts on forums where they are a blowhard troll one minute and then try to jump casually into conversations about movies the next? Asking for a weird clown I know

I don't follow. Good day ma'am.