3570: It Doesn’t Matter
 

Keith and Chemda share the top stories with you, which includes Pete Davidson and Kim Kardashian’s break-up after 9 months, John Lequizamo calling out James Franco, Alex Jones being forced to pay an additional $45.2 million to the first family in his Sandy Hook-related trials, and Alec Baldwin’s thoughts and prayers to Anne Heche following her two 100 mph drunk driving crashes.

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Ahh! This was an opinion roller coaster for me. During the Sandy Hook discussion I'm like "What? Why are you saying this? and then during the Anne Heche conservation I'm thinking, "Yes! Thank you for saying that!" I'm sure it's just a reflection of my own blah blah right now but I did smoke a cigarette (figuratively) after all the ups and downs.

PS - the Anne Heche thing is just really about who the better lesbian between her and Ellen is, right?

As a single mom who has a good relationship with her ex, I think always doing all the extracurriculars with the ex is a lot. Not saying that you're wrong, just offering another perspective. My ex and I do the really important things together (preschool graduation...lol), but not the day-to-day swim classes/karate classes. If we did, I'd have very little free time. I need time to run errands and do chores, time with myself and time with my friends. If I had a boyfriend, I'd need time with him, too. Your ex can handle stuff on his nights. It may also be confusing for your kid if they see you together so often if they're holding out hope that you might get back together.

You need time for yourself and, if it's worth it, your new boyfriend, too.

The new boyfriend is too short in the picture for any demands.

Fidel Castro's father was from Spain and his mother from the Canary Islands (also Spain), so while born in Cuba, he was white. What I'm saying is, we are free to only be angry about James Franco being in this movie because that means he's another working rapist.

I’m also mad about the creep part.

Good that I’m not an actor.
I don’t look my ethnicity, not the one in my passport and not the genetic one.

Just two weeks ago some told me I was way too dark to be German or Polish and what am I really, where am I really from. He would accept Greek or Spanish.
( it was in a work context)

So I would get to play only very few roles.

Sounds like you would play very few...... Poles :cool:

That’s for sure.
Not once in my life did someone think I was from Poland.

Sounds like they are confusing nationality with race.

So they found the needle in the haystack of a Galician Jew to match Castro's racial background that acts and people know his name and the reaction was "but he's not mexican enough." Weird

Probably “not Cuban enough” if I had to guess. I think there’s something to be said for wanting someone with a Cuban background (regardless of ethnic background) being involved in the role. Casting should probably balance being true to the look of the character to some extent, but wouldn’t an actual culturally Cuban person better represent and execute the role?

ALL of this conversation is moot though because the guy they chose is an accused sex offender. THAT’S weird

Elin having a good co-parenting relationship with her ex is commendable. Especially when you consider that her current boyfriend does not have a good relationship with his child's mother, maybe he is projecting ... is he jealous? Does he wish he could have a healthier relationship of co-parenting with his ex? Is he projecting the fact he's not necessarily trustworthy, ie he couldn't be trusted with his own ex that much?

I think doing outings and dinners during this transition is great. This kid has been through a still-ongoing pandemic that upended their lives during a vital development period, now the parents are splitting. A little cushion, kindness, and gentleness during this time only works for the child's benefit.

The new boyfriend can fuck off, he's too new here to be making requests. Boy bye.

Elin here,
Thanks, I also think that putting my daughter first is the only right thing to do here. Another reason we spend time together is also because I have her almost all the time due to the fathers work schedule. Since she only stays with him every other weekend I think it's important for both of them to see each other. Plus we live 10min away.
New bf thinks this is a bad excuse as I should just leave her there for a few hours without actually joining in, but for the time being she is hyper sensitive about the whole 'one parent leaving' part and will have a complete breakdown until I return. I want to give her time to adjust to the new situation AND make sure she gets time with her dad.

And spot on regarding him projecting about his own behaviour around his ex. Even though it's been 10 years since their divorce, he says that he still notices small sparks when he has to be around her that reminds him of why they got together in the first place, hence why he doesn't believe that there is nothing there when I spend time with mine.

BF is a sensitive musician and is going through his own shit due to depression so I'm trying to be understanding and give some slack but this whole thing about making demands about the way I handle my broken family stuff might be the nail in the coffin..

Fuckin' guy ...

Yeah that’s more work than you need. You can be empathetic but Jfc whose breakup is fresh and you are expected to coddle his sensitive musician ass? Nah.

I need to hear his music first.

You'd most likely enjoy his music, Keith :p

So let me add on to the list by mentioning that he's anti-vax AND gave me herpes :eek:
I think the answer here is that I am the asshole - to myself

What COULD his therapist be hearing … Buh-bye!