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07-17-2008, 02:28 PM | #11 (permalink) |
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I don't remember trying to make the argument that I didn't do anything wrong. I remember making the argument that while I did do something wrong, it was being severely blown out of proportion.
I'd like to point out that during Chemda vs McNally round 1, I did not divert, I did not endlessly employ the term "but", and I did not try to deny that I was anything but wrong. In that argument, I knew that I had made serious mistakes, and I reacted appropriately. I think it's different when an argument centers around a small, not-fully-understood event such as Brolo's phone. It was very embarrassing and frustrating to me to be characterized in a negative light because of one incident which, once I was actually asked about it, I took great pains to explain. In this debate, I did not feel like we were attempting to meet each other in the middle. I felt like I was being asked to capitulate to an assessment of the situation which was not even based on factual information. In Chemda vs McNally round 1, I did not have a defense. I was in the wrong, and I quickly accepted that. In Chemda vs McNally round 2, I thought it was important that my side be understood, because a lack of understanding about what had happened and the motivations behind it seemed to be the reason why the event was blown out of proportion. Therefore, I did not stop arguing, I did frequently employ the word "but", and I did not lay down to an assessment of the event and of my character that I thought was incorrect. People feeling bad about what happened is not a reason to end an argument. I can feel sorry that I hurt people and continue to argue my position. In fact, I think it's doubly important to do so, to make it clear that I did not intend to hurt anyone. If I were to immediately accept and apologize for the initial view of the situation, I would be apologizing for deliberately hurting people, which is not how things were. The way I dragged on the debate makes it seem like I simply couldn't see the point of view of the other side. Largely, it was because I felt like my point of view was also not being understood. For me to stop at that point would not be an adult debate, it would be an adult reprimanding a child. In the case of Chemda vs McNally I, that's how it was. I had been acting childishly, I did not have a defense, and I accepted that. In this argument, it was one ill-advised decision that took place in a unique context, and which had no greater meaning or true implications to my character at large. To me, the most important aspect of this debate was for that to be understood. Which it seems like I didn't accomplish. OH WELLS. Last edited by McNally; 07-17-2008 at 02:31 PM. |
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I think I've acknowledged it as much as the situation merits. If I drove a car through Brolo's house, trust me, I'd feel bad. I'd apologize to the ends of the earth. To do that in this situation would be ridiculous. If what acknowledgments I've made are not enough, too fucking bad. That's all I'm offering. |
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Things seem to boil down to, "We want you to understand our side". Maybe I don't know how to do that, because if someone looked through my phone I wouldn't give it a 2nd thought. So, if you care to, please lay it out for me. Give me an example, a sample back and forth, about how things should have gone. Because this seems incredibly intangible to me. There is not some clear doorway marked "Resolution" that I am deliberately not walking through.
To me, it's "argue my side" or "don't argue my side". Given those options, I chose to argue my side. When I think my side is in the wrong, like the first time I had a disagreement with Chemda, then I don't argue my side. I don't know what the third option is. I don't know what I'm supposed to do to get across the idea of understanding to the other person, if what I'm already doing is not enough. Please don't hesitate to explain. |
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maybe its simple for you because you talk to one girl and who cares. when she sends you a pic of her in a compromising way, though, tell me how youd feel if i saw it? how would your GF feel? a phone is the modern diary, and something like 6 out of every 7 people has one. and not everyone is as tame as you are, or seem to be. none of this is my business, so thats all i will add. /shrug
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McNally - Just a quick note, but all those books about psychology are written by psychologists and in my experience they are the most consistently fucked up group of people I have ever know in my life. I'm friends with some, was married to one for four years, spent time with her associates and professors, and let me tell you - there is a reason why they choose their field and it usually ain't pretty. We can take this conversation deeper if you want but I'll leave it there for now.
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McNally himself is saying he doesn't understand where this is coming from. Why are you making up that he does? So you have a point? On these forums it's highly recommended you read the posts before you comment on them. Also, never look through my stuff without permission please. |
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