Death

[Blitzgal]

Feeling really blue right now. It'll be 20 years tomorrow since my father died. He had a heart attack on his 45th birthday when I was 15 years old. I think the reason I'm never really going to fully get over it is because I was just reaching the age where I was seeing him as a person. We never got to have a real conversation about ourselves, our beliefs, anything like that. So I feel like I never got to know him.

I thought it was great that Chemda's show tackled this issue because it's one that touches all of us in some way but culturally, we really avoid talking about it. People get so uncomfortable if I try to discuss how sad I still get over my dad's death. But through Keith and Chemda, we get to discuss all the things that we're "not supposed to talk about." I love this community that has sprung up from this show.

[dEadERest]

picking up my grrl child at Boston Logan today, coming home from four months at the London College of Fashion.
Her teenage years were blistering. I ended up between her and her mother many times and it was years of domestic terror.
But what made her difficult, I knew at the time, were things that would make her a potent adult.
Now, at 20, she and I are wicked tight. She gave me all kindsa props on a phone call to my mother apparently and that was . . wonderful.
My pop passed when I was 17. He was . . difficult. I know that, at the end of his life, he knew I loved and accepted him, that's a mitzvah.
I've gone through life seeking surrogate fathers and mentors.
best wishes to youse blitzen

[campy]

I used to be terrified of being homeless, being raped, being a complete failure in life. Then I had my son and my greatest fear aside from his death is me dying and leaving him behind...motherless and forever wondering about me. It really is a tragedy when a child loses a parent. Not every parent child relationship is tight but when the relationship is good a parent is the most valuable ally. I call my folks every day, I confide in my mom , ask her advice, get her feed back. She is my go to. Death takes all that away :-(

[Blitzgal]

Originally Posted by dEadERest

picking up my grrl child at Boston Logan today, coming home from four months at the London College of Fashion.
Her teenage years were blistering. I ended up between her and her mother many times and it was years of domestic terror.
But what made her difficult, I knew at the time, were things that would make her a potent adult.
Now, at 20, she and I are wicked tight. She gave me all kindsa props on a phone call to my mother apparently and that was . . wonderful.
My pop passed when I was 17. He was . . difficult. I know that, at the end of his life, he knew I loved and accepted him, that's a mitzvah.
I've gone through life seeking surrogate fathers and mentors.
best wishes to youse blitzen

I went through a similar period of difficulty with my mother, I think because we are similarly bullheaded. But once I got out of my teenage years we are now really close. It's really awesome to be able to count a parent as a friend. Thumbs up!

[Ubertapper]

My mom was killed by a drunk driver when I was 7. I never got to know her as a person. I barely remember her at all. I have an 8 year old daughter. Like Campy, I fear only her death before mine than mine before hers. Her perception of me has become the main inspiration for my existence and motivation for the way I live my life. Despite a divorce, she has a loving mother and father. I hope that helps her...