Family Trouble Help Please
 

The good- my family had a going away party for me this weekend, all relatives from both sides invited, great!

The bad- one of my cousins has messed up kids, high school drop outs (and proud of it) into drugs, country hicks. So yea they came and I really though nothing of it.
Well when a friend of mine was leaving she and her husband couldn't find her Nano. He left it in his motorcycle helmet with his gloves. The only people that were out in the garage for most of the time was my cousins oldest son and his girlfriend. This is the same kid that his own aunts won't leave their purses alone with because money has gone missing from them.

My question is should I call and confront the bastard and burn some bridges in the process. Or should I just leave it be.
I am really mad and hurt that this happened at my own house and feel very guilty that my friend can't even come over for a family get together and not worry about her shit getting stolen.
I'm moving outta province with no plans on coming back for a while so I have no problems with pissing some people off by accusing them of theft, which I am pretty sure they did do it. Ugh just a bad situation all over. :mad:

Thanks for any replies and sorry for the long rambling post

Bring it up, no need to accuse. You'll probably never get the nano back, but at least you didn't swallow their shit in silence. In the future, don't invite trash into your house. Even if it's family trash.

Well you said it yourself, you don't mind pissing some people off. It's the morally right thing to do, you have sufficient reason to suspect the kid took it, so ask him.

You don't have to be a dick about it....just go to him and tell him to give it back. Say you know he took it. Whether or not you do, if he's as shitty a person as he sounds, he'll probably deny it if you ask, so just say it like you know it.

If I were your friend, and I knew you had reason to believe your cousin took and you didn't say shit, I'd be pretty upset with you more than the kid who took it. Be a good friend, it's not being an asshole if the person you're being an "asshole" to is an asshole.

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It doesn't sound like the accused are the kind of people that bringing the issue up with or about is going to make a difference, and at best only causes more problems. Unless their mother would actually understand and do something to help anyways, but messed up kids tend to extend to the parents as well.

Honestly, stealing things is a matter for the police, although it may sound a bit drastic, I can't see a resolution any other way. But it would be on the people who had stuff stolen to report it. You may just be out of luck :S

You get to choose your friends, but not your family.

Yeah, that too!

I didn't read any of this at all. What's the problem?

I think someone was trying to decide whether or not to post pictures of his girlfriend's tits.

Yes.

Ultimately you can't prove they did it, and even with sneaking suspicion, you will probably piss your family off by bringing it up. However, do it anyway. If you bring it up, you at least let them know you know about it.

I would bring it up. I've been through similar with people stealing out of my wallets and when I found out I raised hell, but yes I got shafted even though I was right.

Doesn't matter. I don't want that shit in my life. It's a hard call, but up to you in the end if you want the ensuing shit storm for what is right. They'll likely deny it, but maybe you can ask your cousin's (the parents) if they noticed a new nano around and what colour it was. Then boom. Proof, then go after them.

It's not okay. Sorry this went down.