The Gay Thread

[m0o0op]

Great story, at least it had a happy ending

Couple of questions. Where do you live, that you can get married? honest question.
And: do you want to identify yourself as a lesbian when you're married so your wife doesn't question herself sometimes?

[VioletAmnesia]

Originally Posted by m0o0op

Great story, at least it had a happy ending

Couple of questions. Where do you live, that you can get married? honest question.
And: do you want to identify yourself as a lesbian when you're married so your wife doesn't question herself sometimes?

We live in England, technically we call it "Civil Partnership" over here but most people just call them all marriages.

I dont think my other half has much worries about me running off or anything Im more interested in people for having cool hair or clothes than if their attractive. I dont really bother to correct people anymore but I dont think I could change my internal identity because Id always know I thought that actor/singer/whatever was hot and it would be kinda lying.

[m0o0op]

Originally Posted by VioletAmnesia

We live in England, technically we call it "Civil Partnership" over here but most people just call them all marriages.

I dont think my other half has much worries about me running off or anything Im more interested in people for having cool hair or clothes than if their attractive. I dont really bother to correct people anymore but I dont think I could change my internal identity because Id always know I thought that actor/singer/whatever was hot and it would be kinda lying.

Mmm, that's where I'd like the world to get to, for civil partnerships to just be accepted as, or at least have the same benefits as marriage.

Of course, trust is essential in a relationship, and without a doubt you have that. If you trust and love each other, it's going to work forever.

[Abacus]

Originally Posted by CuriousKlepto

Give him a chance. Guys who know they're a mess try harder when talking to cute guys like you. You might like him. And don't get all mad about straight logic, it does make sense. Although that could just be the desperation in me saying that. And you know what, worse comes to worse, pull a Keith and just literally walk away. Don't say anything, no lame excuses, just pick up your speed until he can't find you. Rude? Yes, but also effective.

I think I'm gonna give him a chance, for sure... As if you just categorized me as a "cute guy" hahaha. Trust me, I'm not that cute.

Originally Posted by marina

Why don't you plan to hang out with him as part of a group? That way if he's a weirdo, you can talk to other people, or not feel so guilty about leaving early "I forgot to wash my hair" style.

Definitely a group setting for the first meeting, I agree. We were supposed to meet last night at a friend's party, but he was at another one before and got too drunk and passed out apparently..... not the best first impression.

[aldo mcgee]

Originally Posted by CuriousKlepto

And don't get all mad about straight logic, it does make sense. Although that could just be the desperation in me saying that.

I find myself getting upset with "straight logic" quite a bit actually. It doesn't happen as much anymore because I've explained it to my friends enough times over the years but every now and then they do try it again.

By "straight logic" then we should be trying to hook up every single of our straight female friends with every other one of our straight male friends? Do they have anything in common? Who cares? You're a guy, you like pussy. You're a girl, you like dick. Get together already!

It makes no sense.

[Dorian]

Originally Posted by Abacus

Their whole logic is, "YOU'RE gay! HE'S gay! YOU TWO ARE PERFECT FOR EACH OTHER!"

I've never really taken issue with that logic. If you know two gay guys then why not try to hook them up. Both individuals being gay doesn't necessarily mean they'll immediately click, but we only have about 5% of the population as potential mates, so why not? It sure beats meeting someone on manhunt.net or smething :-/

[CuriousKlepto]

Originally Posted by aldo mcgee

I find myself getting upset with "straight logic" quite a bit actually. It doesn't happen as much anymore because I've explained it to my friends enough times over the years but every now and then they do try it again.

By "straight logic" then we should be trying to hook up every single of our straight female friends with every other one of our straight male friends? Do they have anything in common? Who cares? You're a guy, you like pussy. You're a girl, you like dick. Get together already!

It makes no sense.

In all fairness,. they're only trying to help. In thier head, thier thinking"You're only as good as your options" It's not thier fault they have more options from the get. And honestly, there are people out there who do try to set up straight couples based solely on the fact that both parties are single. So while it is annoying you just have to go with it. You might actually like them. worst case you go home alone and never see them again.(Well I guess worst case would be that he stalks you for two weeks then stitches a suit out of your skin after he stabs you and steals your organs, but the chances of that...)

[Abacus]

MY issue is, I refuse to settle. And I'm not going to get with a guy just "because." I understand straight people are just trying to help, but sometimes it's unwanted and unnecessary.

Irregardless, I'd like to think I have lots of choices. There's enough gays in Toronto for me to have choices... Two more years, then I'm up and away to the city. >_<

[CuriousKlepto]

Originally Posted by Abacus

MY issue is, I refuse to settle. And I'm not going to get with a guy just "because." I understand straight people are just trying to help, but sometimes it's unwanted and unnecessary.

Irregardless, I'd like to think I have lots of choices. There's enough gays in Toronto for me to have choices... Two more years, then I'm up and away to the city. >_<

Nobody's saying that you need to settle. But you aren't with anyone, he isn't with anyone(that we know of) just give it a try. Don't never judge someone on a first impression. I've learned that that's not a good indicator of how a person really is. It's their polite mode, and it's a lie. It's not like you're going to find the one guy you're going to spend the rest of your life with(until I get up there). Besides, did you see him? Is he cute? He might be fun even as just a friend/fuck buddy. Yes there's many men, many choices, but there's gotta be a reason you're not with one of them right now.

[marina]

Originally Posted by Abacus

Definitely a group setting for the first meeting, I agree. We were supposed to meet last night at a friend's party, but he was at another one before and got too drunk and passed out apparently..... not the best first impression.

Yeah, that's not such a good sign. Maybe it was just an off night though.

Originally Posted by Abacus

MY issue is, I refuse to settle. And I'm not going to get with a guy just "because." I understand straight people are just trying to help, but sometimes it's unwanted and unnecessary.

Irregardless, I'd like to think I have lots of choices. There's enough gays in Toronto for me to have choices... Two more years, then I'm up and away to the city. >_<

This doesn't just happen with gay dudes, when I was single I would hear about dudes people wanted me to meet (ugh, I can just imagine that convo "would you like to fuck my fat friend? She's really funny.") People who have a perception that they are nothing without a mate tend to try to foist that on others. Alternately, have you been bitching about having no one to fuck? Maybe they're just trying to find a solution.