Post your sob stories. A challenge, but serious

[Juline]

Originally Posted by StuartPants

Who knew, KATG would be such a source of therapy. I don't expect anyone to read all of this, but it's been a huge source of ventilation. Thanks DJ.

I've read all of these posts. And you're right -- who knew? I've said it before...I'm home. Thank you for sharing (all of you).

I've also had a pretty sheltered life. I haven't lost any friends (or really any family members yet), but my husband lost both of his best friends by the time he was 21 -- one in a logging accident, the other in a drunk driving accident (along with four more classmates).

As for me, I won't go into nitty-gritty details, but when I was 19 I was raped at knifepoint by a roommate's boyfriend. I got through the arraignment okay, but couldn't face trial, so he got a plea deal of seven years. I'm curious to know how much time he actually served, but I'm not curious enough to make the calls to find out. Then three years ago I was diagnosed with Stage 2b cervical cancer. Did the whole chemo/radiation/surgery thing with huge success, and am now approaching my three-year cancer-free anniversary.

[Rhian]

Originally Posted by Juline

Did the whole chemo/radiation/surgery thing with huge success, and am now approaching my three-year cancer-free anniversary.

Big brass balls to you darlin.

[paul_r]

Originally Posted by sharkface

uhh.. my boss got stoned yesterday and forgot to put his truck into park. it rolled into my new car. he doesn't have insurance so i'll end up paying for it. then i got pulled over on the way home coz my tail light was out. also i didn't get my history paper done and failed the class.

i think the history paper pisses me off the most.

is that legal, the no insurance?

[StuartPants]

Originally Posted by Juline

I've read all of these posts. And you're right -- who knew? I've said it before...I'm home. Thank you for sharing (all of you).

I've also had a pretty sheltered life. I haven't lost any friends (or really any family members yet), but my husband lost both of his best friends by the time he was 21 -- one in a logging accident, the other in a drunk driving accident (along with four more classmates).

As for me, I won't go into nitty-gritty details, but when I was 19 I was raped at knifepoint by a roommate's boyfriend. I got through the arraignment okay, but couldn't face trial, so he got a plea deal of seven years. I'm curious to know how much time he actually served, but I'm not curious enough to make the calls to find out. Then three years ago I was diagnosed with Stage 2b cervical cancer. Did the whole chemo/radiation/surgery thing with huge success, and am now approaching my three-year cancer-free anniversary.

Why is it that every single female I come in contact with has in some way been mistreated, misused, or abused by a male figure in their life. Just ignore this if you don't want to answer it Juline, but I'm just curious, were the people who held you at knifepoint people you knew, or complete strangers?

[Juline]

Originally Posted by StuartPants

Why is it that every single female I come in contact with has in some way been mistreated, misused, or abused by a male figure in their life. Just ignore this if you don't want to answer it Juline, but I'm just curious, were the people who held you at knifepoint people you knew, or complete strangers?

Every single, are you sure?? I wouldn't say that's the case in my circle of friends, but I'm sure there are stories that aren't ever shared.

It was a person that held me at knifepoint, not people. And it was the boyfriend of a friend that I was going to court reporting school with, that I shared *every single class* with. We all moved in together, and within just a few months she moved out without telling me what she was doing. Apparently he was abusive to her, but did she tell me that? No. I was working a lot and spending time at my boyfriend's house, so I didn't see any abuse. I just saw an unemployed loser from Texas that sat around in his boxers all day chewing tobacco and spitting it into an old milk jug. GROSS. I'm convinced he's the reason for my dislike of anything Texas Anyway, she moved out, he started drinking more, and one night when I was alone with him (not unusual, so I didn't have any reason to be concerned, he was my roommate), he came into my room with a knife.

After that my "friend" and I never spoke. She eventually dropped out of school, so at least I didn't have to keep seeing her every single day.

[StuartPants]

Originally Posted by Juline

Every single, are you sure?? I wouldn't say that's the case in my circle of friends, but I'm sure there are stories that aren't ever shared.

It was a person that held me at knifepoint, not people. And it was the boyfriend of a friend that I was going to court reporting school with, that I shared *every single class* with. We all moved in together, and within just a few months she moved out without telling me what she was doing. Apparently he was abusive to her, but did she tell me that? No. I was working a lot and spending time at my boyfriend's house, so I didn't see any abuse. I just saw an unemployed loser from Texas that sat around in his boxers all day chewing tobacco and spitting it into an old milk jug. GROSS. I'm convinced he's the reason for my dislike of anything Texas Anyway, she moved out, he started drinking more, and one night when I was alone with him (not unusual, so I didn't have any reason to be concerned, he was my roommate), he came into my room with a knife.

After that my "friend" and I never spoke. She eventually dropped out of school, so at least I didn't have to keep seeing her every single day.

yeah. not necessarily rape or even physical abuse (although this is a frequent case), but even degradation... verbal abuse.

[Juline]

Originally Posted by StuartPants

yeah. not necessarily rape or even physical abuse (although this is a frequent case), but even degradation... verbal abuse.

Well, if you're going to throw in verbal abuse/degredation, then I'd bet we've all been there.

[StuartPants]

Originally Posted by Juline

Well, if you're going to throw in verbal abuse/degredation, then I'd bet we've all been there.

I don't mean the regular abuse we all dish out when we're frustrated. I mean the constant berating and over the top vulgarity and disrespect that is usually characteristic of alcoholics.

[Juline]

Originally Posted by StuartPants

I don't mean the regular abuse we all dish out when we're frustrated. I mean the constant berating and over the top vulgarity and disrespect that is usually characteristic of alcoholics.

I know what you mean. Unfortunately.

[Rhian]

Originally Posted by Juline

I know what you mean. Unfortunately.

All too common...