Question about gay dating?

[notedhero]

Now, to play devil's advocate, there's nothing wrong with his wanting to be physical, and that doesn't mean he was this horny guy. It might be that he just didn't want to be in a relationship with someone who is just discovering himself. He could have wanted something a little more stable. There are a lot of hang-ups a 20 y/o can have with his sexuality, and if he isn't comfortable with the idea of even being physical (i don't know if he had his hand's down your pants or was just looking for a kiss) he was probably just reconciling that this wasn't what he wanted.

I think in the future you should be open about this being a bunch of firsts for you and that you're more comfortable with taking things slowly. Maybe find someone either closer in age, or situation so that you feel comfortable with being on the same wavelength.

[phooey]

Originally Posted by notedhero

Now, to play devil's advocate, there's nothing wrong with his wanting to be physical, and that doesn't mean he was this horny guy. It might be that he just didn't want to be in a relationship with someone who is just discovering himself. He could have wanted something a little more stable. There are a lot of hang-ups a 20 y/o can have with his sexuality, and if he isn't comfortable with the idea of even being physical (i don't know if he had his hand's down your pants or was just looking for a kiss) he was probably just reconciling that this wasn't what he wanted.

I think in the future you should be open about this being a bunch of firsts for you and that you're more comfortable with taking things slowly. Maybe find someone either closer in age, or situation so that you feel comfortable with being on the same wavelength.

Or learn to let out your inner sluttiness...

[marina]

Originally Posted by Mikey

where did I say I wanted him to make love to a woman "so bad"

btw, unrelated.... are you a liberal?

I depends. I'm socially very liberal, but fiscally very conservative.

[CuriousKlepto]

Originally Posted by notedhero

Now, to play devil's advocate, there's nothing wrong with his wanting to be physical, and that doesn't mean he was this horny guy. It might be that he just didn't want to be in a relationship with someone who is just discovering himself. He could have wanted something a little more stable. There are a lot of hang-ups a 20 y/o can have with his sexuality, and if he isn't comfortable with the idea of even being physical (i don't know if he had his hand's down your pants or was just looking for a kiss) he was probably just reconciling that this wasn't what he wanted.

I think in the future you should be open about this being a bunch of firsts for you and that you're more comfortable with taking things slowly. Maybe find someone either closer in age, or situation so that you feel comfortable with being on the same wavelength.

You're right. The more this thread goes on, the more I realize how stupid I was. We started kissing on his bed and as he was sliding his hand up my leg from my knee, I just started freaking out. Then I told him I was a virgin, then he freaked out. I've never met a gay guy before so with eveything happening I sorta just let things get carried away. I do want to be with guys, I just can't seem to find one that's willing to take it slow.

[notedhero]

Originally Posted by CuriousKlepto

You're right. The more this thread goes on, the more I realize how stupid I was. We started kissing on his bed and as he was sliding his hand up my leg from my knee, I just started freaking out. Then I told him I was a virgin, then he freaked out. I've never met a gay guy before so with eveything happening I sorta just let things get carried away. I do want to be with guys, I just can't seem to find one that's willing to take it slow.

Exactly, I knew there was something there. So no problem. If you're looking on line like that (and I know this from experience) they sites like gay.com, squirt, and manhunt arent for you. You should try more social networking sites like okcupid and dlist. You'll find guy in your area that may be more up to your speed.

Originally Posted by phooey

Or learn to let out your inner sluttiness...

Ha! That's next lesson in Gay Dating 201.

[French Marsh]

i just recently came out in janurary this year, so ive had enough time to "discover" myself and become familliar with the gay community (somewhat) i think it might be time to have my first relationship...i have tried to have girl relationships in the past but it didnt work out for various. this thread has been really helpful (thanks for starting it)


Anyone have any advice on how to start a relationship, or even how to let people know im interrested in them without going up to them and devoloping diahrrea of the mouth ?

[notedhero]

Originally Posted by French Marsh

i just recently came out in janurary this year, so ive had enough time to "discover" myself and become familliar with the gay community (somewhat) i think it might be time to have my first relationship...i have tried to have girl relationships in the past but it didnt work out for various. this thread has been really helpful (thanks for starting it)


Anyone have any advice on how to start a relationship, or even how to let people know im interrested in them without going up to them and devoloping diahrrea of the mouth ?

Now that, I don't know if I can help with...that's advanced. I'm not the type to actually let myself be in a relationship, let alone going up to someone to let them know I'm interested. But when I do get that taken, I just use alcohol. It helps me a little, but I only allowed myself to go up to someone twice. Maybe if you're a less controlled person it will work.

[Mikey]

CuriousKlepto, you ever motorboat a girl before?

Just, before you become full on gay. try it once and tell me how you feel afterwards.

[CuriousKlepto]

I think that would be a very uncomfortable conversation. "Excuse me miss, I think I'm gay. May I motorboat you to see if I'm right?"

[Bebe]

Originally Posted by CuriousKlepto

I think that would be a very uncomfortable conversation. "Excuse me miss, I think I'm gay. May I motorboat you to see if I'm right?"

I wouldn't mind. Like a public service really.

BTW motorboating seems to have two meanings ... either done to the bewbs or the vag ...

I only subscribe to the first one.