Question about gay dating?

[CuriousKlepto]

Originally Posted by andyoureuglytoo

Don't worry about it. Don't stress out. Live your life. Don't worry about who your friends are, gay or straight. Just be yourself. When it happens, it happens. But the more you build it up in your head, the more disappointed you're going to be.

Yeah I realize this. I've been building it up since i was 12, so it'll proably be the worst experience of my life. Oh well, I could always just give up and live a life of celibacy.

[notedhero]

or you could just lower your expectations by having so much terrible sex spaced out 6+ months apart that just an average guy is a treasure...like me

[andyoureuglytoo]

Originally Posted by CuriousKlepto

Yeah I realize this. I've been building it up since i was 12, so it'll proably be the worst experience of my life. Oh well, I could always just give up and live a life of celibacy.

No. Just...if it's with somebody you care about, even if it's bad...It'll be alright.

Here are a couple of pointers...

If you cum right away, give it a few minutes. Then you'll be ready to get back in the saddle and be you'll be able to last a lot longer.

Find a bottom. That way you can get your penis touched, but do minimal in return. (And he might even be happy to help!)

Start with a lot of foreplay. Kiss. Massage. Investigate. The best sex is never (at least for me) about rushing to the finish line. I could spend hours exploring my partner and having him/her explore me. This will help you feel more at ease about the situation and loosen you up about the experience. It will also give you a better understanding of what feels good to your partner.

Along the same lines, know THYSELF...figure out what you like. You can do this by yourself, in your own home. Know where you like to be touched. Know what feels good and what doesn't. When the time comes, you can gently (or otherwise ) guide your lover to those sweet spots.

DON'T be drunk or high. This impairs your judgement. It can lead to STD's or worse-- you might be stuck having to make an awkward exit in the morning when you discover what you've woken up next to.

And finally, you always reserve the right to say no. Remember it. Use it. You can always find a new man. (Or discover that you like it rough.)

[marina]

Originally Posted by andyoureuglytoo

No. Just...if it's with somebody you care about, even if it's bad...It'll be alright.

Here are a couple of pointers...

If you cum right away, give it a few minutes. Then you'll be ready to get back in the saddle and be you'll be able to last a lot longer.

Find a bottom. That way you can get your penis touched, but do minimal in return. (And he might even be happy to help!)

Start with a lot of foreplay. Kiss. Massage. Investigate. The best sex is never (at least for me) about rushing to the finish line. I could spend hours exploring my partner and having him/her explore me. This will help you feel more at ease about the situation and loosen you up about the experience. It will also give you a better understanding of what feels good to your partner.

Along the same lines, know THYSELF...figure out what you like. You can do this by yourself, in your own home. Know where you like to be touched. Know what feels good and what doesn't. When the time comes, you can gently (or otherwise ) guide your lover to those sweet spots.

DON'T be drunk or high. This impairs your judgement. It can lead to STD's or worse-- you might be stuck having to make an awkward exit in the morning when you discover what you've woken up next to.

And finally, you always reserve the right to say no. Remember it. Use it. You can always find a new man. (Or discover that you like it rough.)

Good advice.

I know that when I was first together with Dr. Boyfriend I was relatively inexperienced and my first instinct was to act like I knew what I was doing (as I had done in the unsuccessful and floundering encounters I'd had before him) but it was better (if an ego killer) to be honest with him that I really didn't know what I was doing.

[CuriousKlepto]

Originally Posted by andyoureuglytoo

No. Just...if it's with somebody you care about, even if it's bad...It'll be alright.

Here are a couple of pointers...

If you cum right away, give it a few minutes. Then you'll be ready to get back in the saddle and be you'll be able to last a lot longer.

Find a bottom. That way you can get your penis touched, but do minimal in return. (And he might even be happy to help!)

Start with a lot of foreplay. Kiss. Massage. Investigate. The best sex is never (at least for me) about rushing to the finish line. I could spend hours exploring my partner and having him/her explore me. This will help you feel more at ease about the situation and loosen you up about the experience. It will also give you a better understanding of what feels good to your partner.

Along the same lines, know THYSELF...figure out what you like. You can do this by yourself, in your own home. Know where you like to be touched. Know what feels good and what doesn't. When the time comes, you can gently (or otherwise ) guide your lover to those sweet spots.

DON'T be drunk or high. This impairs your judgement. It can lead to STD's or worse-- you might be stuck having to make an awkward exit in the morning when you discover what you've woken up next to.

And finally, you always reserve the right to say no. Remember it. Use it. You can always find a new man. (Or discover that you like it rough.)

I just wish I wasn't such a retard when meeting guys.

[andyoureuglytoo]

Uh...my friend, who isn't retard when it comes to meeting guys?

[CuriousKlepto]

I'm retarded with everyone, but cute guys just steal all the words from my mouth. I hate it.

[marina]

Originally Posted by CuriousKlepto

I'm retarded with everyone, but cute guys just steal all the words from my mouth. I hate it.

That's what cute people do. Just remember that in the beginning, we're all shitting all over ourselves and puking up our food and in the end we're all just rotting meat. Nobody's that impressive-especially cute people. It's not like you're meeting the queen, after all.

[andyoureuglytoo]

Originally Posted by CuriousKlepto

I'm retarded with everyone, but cute guys just steal all the words from my mouth. I hate it.

Originally Posted by marina

That's what cute people do. Just remember that in the beginning, we're all shitting all over ourselves and puking up our food and in the end we're all just rotting meat. Nobody's that impressive-especially cute people. It's not like you're meeting the queen, after all.

And the queen isn't even THAT cute.

See and you've already proven that cute people aren't perfect. They steal.

A lot.