Question about gay dating?

[andyoureuglytoo]

Originally Posted by DarkKnightJared

I definately feel for ya, Klepto--in sort-of the same situation (bi, haven't had any experience with either gender), and I have the same problem in that I'm shit at getting a date and I fear I've worked it up too much too.

Jared, let's go on a date.

Originally Posted by marina

Relationships are like any organic thing, you have to let it grow on it's own pace, if you try to force it or stifle it, it'll strangle and die. Just relax.

I try to force relationships. Even if it's just friendships.

But, it's something I'm working on.

[marina]

Originally Posted by andyoureuglytoo

I try to force relationships. Even if it's just friendships.

But, it's something I'm working on.

Me too. I totally used to try to force friendships, or I just wouldn't even start anything because I didn't know how to find a middle ground. Personally, I have to find as much happiness and security in being alone as I would in being with a person I was able to have fun with. Otherwise, I'm only hanging out with people so I wont have to hang out with myself, thus forcing them to endure the very fate I'm trying to avoid.

[andyoureuglytoo]

Originally Posted by marina

Me too. I totally used to try to force friendships, or I just wouldn't even start anything because I didn't know how to find a middle ground. Personally, I have to find as much happiness and security in being alone as I would in being with a person I was able to have fun with. Otherwise, I'm only hanging out with people so I wont have to hang out with myself, thus forcing them to endure the very fate I'm trying to avoid.

But sometimes I have trouble telling the difference from when I'm avoiding myself or just seeking human contact.

[notedhero]

Originally Posted by marina

Me too. I totally used to try to force friendships, or I just wouldn't even start anything because I didn't know how to find a middle ground. Personally, I have to find as much happiness and security in being alone as I would in being with a person I was able to have fun with. Otherwise, I'm only hanging out with people so I wont have to hang out with myself, thus forcing them to endure the very fate I'm trying to avoid.

I know that when I was in high school I felt like I was forcing friendships, and that I really had some good friends. Only a couple of years later did I find out that, because of my combative, argumentative personality my friends thought I hated them the first couple of years until they realized that's how I am...very disheartening. I've found now that I'm incapable of forcing friendships. I try very hard to make conversations, and put myself out there, and let people warm up to my personality, otherwise people could really dislike me for some ridiculous piece of sarcasm that I threw out nonchalantly.

[marina]

Originally Posted by CuriousKlepto

But on the bright side, when I've been around people I'm less likely to cut.

I have a feeling everybody's probably going to ignore this. Part of me feels like I should ignore it, because it's uncomfortable. Chances are if you're a cutter, the last thing you need is dick in your mouth. Fix yourself first, dude.

Originally Posted by Grapist

What about the binding of the asian girls' feets so they stay small during the child's growth. That doesn't kill.

It kills their souls, which is really the best way to avoid conflict when keeping slaves. GOY, China.

[andyoureuglytoo]

Originally Posted by DarkKnightJared

Alright, but no hankey-pankey...unless you buy me dinner first.

Dude, I'm a gentleman. I would never try anything without your consent. Unless, of course, that's what you're in to.

No, seriously, I would buy you dinner. As many as you wanted.

Originally Posted by Grapist

What about the binding of the asian girls' feets so they stay small during the child's growth. That doesn't kill.

You're HI-larious. (I'm not even being sarcastic.)

[andyoureuglytoo]

Originally Posted by marina

I have a feeling everybody's probably going to ignore this. Part of me feels like I should ignore it, because it's uncomfortable. Chances are if you're a cutter, the last thing you need is dick in your mouth. Fix yourself first, dude.

Uh...Marina's right. You need help. More than we can offer.

Get some.

I used to be a cutter too.

Know what made me stop?

I realized how stupid it was and what a douche I was being.

[marina]

Originally Posted by andyoureuglytoo

Uh...Marina's right. You need help. More than we can offer.

Get some.

I used to be a cutter too.

Know what made me stop?

I realized how stupid it was and what a douche I was being.

Yeah... I was a cutter for while. It stopped when I started working the steps so... unless you have one of those type of problems I can't help with any advice.

[notedhero]

Originally Posted by andyoureuglytoo

Uh...Marina's right. You need help. More than we can offer.

Get some.

I used to be a cutter too.

Know what made me stop?

I realized how stupid it was and what a douche I was being.

Originally Posted by marina

Yeah... I was a cutter for while. It stopped when I started working the steps so... unless you have one of those type of problems I can't help with any advice.

Hm, what another weird minority i seem to be in.

[marina]

Originally Posted by notedhero

Hm, what another weird minority i seem to be in.

Most of my female and gay male friends are in the same category. Personally, I think it has to do with rage, aggression and the ineffectual avenues that we have to express those emotions due to the perception of us collective as a weak population.