Question about gay dating?

[notedhero]

Now, even though I'm with you on this phase Klepto, I definitely agree with the concensus. We're just going to have to man up. I know I for one can't keep acting like a scared bitch everytime I want to talk to a cute guy. Otherwise I'll be alone, and then that means having a hag to wallow with in self pity that turns into a horrible co-dependent relationship where you feed off of each other's misery. No one wants that.

[CuriousKlepto]

I'm so alone right now that I would kill for a hag.

[notedhero]

You should never say that. Learn to find solace within you own neurosis before adding a hag to it.

[DarkKnightJared]

I definately feel for ya, Klepto--in sort-of the same situation (bi, haven't had any experience with either gender), and I have the same problem in that I'm shit at getting a date and I fear I've worked it up too much too.

[marina]

Relationships are like any organic thing, you have to let it grow on it's own pace, if you try to force it or stifle it, it'll strangle and die. Just relax.

[andyoureuglytoo]

Originally Posted by DarkKnightJared

I definately feel for ya, Klepto--in sort-of the same situation (bi, haven't had any experience with either gender), and I have the same problem in that I'm shit at getting a date and I fear I've worked it up too much too.

Jared, let's go on a date.

Originally Posted by marina

Relationships are like any organic thing, you have to let it grow on it's own pace, if you try to force it or stifle it, it'll strangle and die. Just relax.

I try to force relationships. Even if it's just friendships.

But, it's something I'm working on.

[marina]

Originally Posted by andyoureuglytoo

I try to force relationships. Even if it's just friendships.

But, it's something I'm working on.

Me too. I totally used to try to force friendships, or I just wouldn't even start anything because I didn't know how to find a middle ground. Personally, I have to find as much happiness and security in being alone as I would in being with a person I was able to have fun with. Otherwise, I'm only hanging out with people so I wont have to hang out with myself, thus forcing them to endure the very fate I'm trying to avoid.

[andyoureuglytoo]

Originally Posted by marina

Me too. I totally used to try to force friendships, or I just wouldn't even start anything because I didn't know how to find a middle ground. Personally, I have to find as much happiness and security in being alone as I would in being with a person I was able to have fun with. Otherwise, I'm only hanging out with people so I wont have to hang out with myself, thus forcing them to endure the very fate I'm trying to avoid.

But sometimes I have trouble telling the difference from when I'm avoiding myself or just seeking human contact.

[DarkKnightJared]

Originally Posted by andyoureuglytoo

Jared, let's go on a date.

Alright, but no hankey-pankey...unless you buy me dinner first.

[marina]

Originally Posted by andyoureuglytoo

But sometimes I have trouble telling the difference from when I'm avoiding myself or just seeking human contact.

Lately, I've been avoiding human contact, but I totally know what you mean.

Originally Posted by DarkKnightJared

Alright, but no hankey-pankey...unless you buy me dinner first.

<insert Adam Corolla's joke about going dutch>