Sex advice/I can't cum.

[tyty]

So guys, I am a long time listener. First time thread maker.
I am in a weird situation: I am finding it really hard to cum when I have sex. Little background: 27/m/ I do give a huge shit about this and I have only had 3 relationships spaced out over years. So, I've spent a large part of it pleasuring myself. Now that I have someone as sexual and a little kinky as I am, I get so excited pleasuring her but it never pays off in climax for me. I have tried not masturbating at all in between sessions and that has not worked out so far. So, I look the KATG'ers for advice.

Thanks, all.

[amyuilani]

Tantric sex. And stop jerking off.

[DWarrior]

maybe?

[stabbyhappy]

Ask yourself these questions:

Are you genuinely sexually attracted to her?

Does she know how to please you?

Is something in your head holding you back?

Is she on the same page as you regarding the status of your relationship?

Are you focusing everything on her pleasure and not on your own?

In the mean time fuck her until the cows come home. The opportunity might not come around again.

[word]

One of these is the answer

Originally Posted by stabbyhappy

Ask yourself these questions:

Are you genuinely sexually attracted to her?

Does she know how to please you?

Is something in your head holding you back?

Is she on the same page as you regarding the status of your relationship?

Are you focusing everything on her pleasure and not on your own?

In the mean time fuck her until the cows come home. The opportunity might not come around again.

[Ubertapper]

Could be the way you are masturbating. If you are jerking so hard that it no longer comes close to feeling like a pussy would, you may be disillusioning your dick when the real thing comes along.

[tyty]

See below, thanks everyone.

Originally Posted by stabbyhappy

Ask yourself these questions:

Are you genuinely sexually attracted to her?Yes, I don't see this being it. I think about her when I masterbate

Does she know how to please you?This may be a portion of it.

Is something in your head holding you back?Obviously, this is the one I'm worried about. Having a problem like that takes time to deal with.

Is she on the same page as you regarding the status of your relationship?We have been very honest and upfront about everything I don't think this is it.

Are you focusing everything on her pleasure and not on your own?This is another possible reason. I spend a lot of time getting her off and it might be affecting me.

In the mean time fuck her until the cows come home. The opportunity might not come around again.