Sex advice/I can't cum.

[tyty]

Originally Posted by Lanfear

This! From what I hear from Rev Jen and read on Dan Savage: Training your cock to only react to a deathgrip is a very possible reason for your problem.
Savage Love by Dan Savage - Seattle Columns - Savage Love - Dan Savage - The Stranger, Seattle's Only Newspaper

And as a girl let me speak for your girlfriend: "Ouch this hurts and this is going on way to long to be fun" and "Oh boy he really must find me unattractive/fat/dumb/untalented/... if he doesn't come from sex EVER"

I honestly don't feel like I have a deathgrip. I listened to that Rev Jen episode and read the article. I will try retraining my dick advice though.
As for your last point, I don't want her to feel that way. That's why I'm asking advice.

Originally Posted by marina

Do you ask her to do things during sex? Maybe she's not helping you out as much because she doesn't know what you want.

Another thing might be nerves. Being comfortable enough to cum in front of another person isn't just a girl issue. I've had guy friends who have the same problem. They won't cum until they feel safe with the other person.

I think going forward I might need to communicate what I like better in bed and afterward
As for the second part, Its odd because I have cum before, just not now. And I feel so much more comfortable with her than anyone else. As this goes on, it sounds more and more, like this is all in my goddamn head.

[golgi body]

Are you on any medication?

[tyty]

Originally Posted by golgi body

Are you on any medication?

No.

[jacey.ATX]

Can you get off if she goes down on you? What about a handjob? Is it just intercourse that's the problem?

[FletchLives]

Originally Posted by crecentroll

Put it in her butt. Then if you cum, you know you're just gay and there is nothing wrong with you. Except being gay, of course.

The funny thing is, if it's the kung fu grip wanking that's causing this issue, anal might really work for this dude. Then he'll be all sorts of confused.

[benjita]

The "in your head" thing is a real killer. If there's anything you're obsessing about (problems at school/work, dirty house, kids knocking or screaming, worrying about pleasing her too much), not only will you delay it, but you may lose it altogether.

[campy]

Newsy mentioned this on twitter (follow him if you can his tweets are AWSOME)

HealthyStrokes.com

[DWarrior]

that was from the Hemming Way author.

[poingjam]

Originally Posted by DWarrior

that was from the Hemming Way author.

Good point. Have you tried imagining she's Marty Beckerman?

[DWarrior]