Should I Be Worried? Girl With Guy Friends

[DWarrior]

Yeah, there's gonna be a robbery.

[Scat]

Originally Posted by DWarrior

Yeah, there's gonna be a robbery.

What does that mean?

Anyway, I brought up my concerns with her and she pretty much laughed it off, she thought it was pretty silly. She said that he's like "a kid" and it's not like that at all. Chances are even if he likes her, he'd be too scared to make a move, and she doesn't seem to think of him that way. So I guess my concerns are pretty relieved for now.

[RoundAbout]

Kill him. Kill him good.

[Medium Brumski]

Originally Posted by Scat

What does that mean?

It means he's going to steal your chick (Jersey Shore)

Originally Posted by Scat

Anyway, I brought up my concerns with her and she pretty much laughed it off, she thought it was pretty silly. She said that he's like "a kid" and it's not like that at all. Chances are even if he likes her, he'd be too scared to make a move, and she doesn't seem to think of him that way. So I guess my concerns are pretty relieved for now.

That's more of what I was thinking. Evaluate this guy, are you a better catch? If yes, no worries, either she'll see that and stay with you, or move on to this guy, but that would probably mean they are a better match. I guess that's not really helping. If he's better, which it doesn't sound like he is, then that's basis for a robbery.

[Ansur]

He wants her. He's waiting for a chance, a sign from her. Meanwhile, he's got everything in place. If she moves in with him, I'd drop her and move on. You don't need the drama that is coming down the road.

[dannyhatch]

Or maybe you guys are being paranoid weirdos with no concept of friendship. Relax. If it's meant to be, it's meant to be.

(It doesn't sound like it's meant to be.)

[Imatami]

I had the same problem a while ago. Girl spent alot of time with a couple dudes and one in particular. I asked her about it she denied anything could/would ever happen. I took the attitude that there was nothing I could do and being jealous was conterproductive so I ignored it. Then I gradually found out more and more stuff between then that was arguably crossing the line if you know what I mean. She would talk to him about stuff she wasn't telling me. I knew he liked her and she denied it till he made moves while I was away. Surprise She saw much less of him after that and finally believed me
We broke up a while later because of a bunch of reasons and that was actually pretty low on the list. To be honest though if your girl is not seeing what is obvious to you and perhaps to others then she needs to be educated or it will end in a mess. Having said that if she is already going to move in with him it will work itself out pretty quick for better or worse but always better in the long run.

[TeddyPicker]

Aw man, I see the anxiety/paranoia/fear in your post, it totally sucks to feel that.

I have an incredibly close friendship with a guy that's been going on for about a year now. We've just become "long distance", he's stayed in London to work and I'm in York studying, but we talk every day, lots of Skype conversations and always plans to see one another when we can.
Sounds like a relationship, I know. But the difference that should set your mind at ease and set my ex-boyfriend's mind at ease at the time, was that there's all of this compatibility and the sexual element hasn't come into it.

An entire year of date like nights? No move was made? I mean this guy is either truly the biggest coward ever (and then will probably stay this way) or there's just not a sexual element there.
I don't know how to explain it, but if it hasn't cropped up yet after so much closeness, I don't think it will.

Chin up in the meantime, fuck her brains out, that always helps.

[Rufio]

Chemda asked on the show how keith handled cats close male friends, but for long time listeners does anyone remember the situation with rellek and how he was a very close male friend of chemda? How did keith deal with that friendship in terms of his relationship with her at the time?

[Scat]

So the subject of her guy friend came up again when I found out he bought her an ipod for her birthday. He's only known her for about 4 months, not much longer than I've known her. I asked her if she thought it was a little strange that someone she's known for so little time is buying her such an expensive gift, and she got pretty upset and said that he's just a generous guy and for some people money doesn't matter.

So anyway the next day we all went to see a movie together. He's actually a really nice guy, there doesn't seem to be anything wrong with him... I figure if they want to hang out, that's cool with me, because I get to take her home at night. And he even wants to hang out just the two of us, so maybe I have a new friend too.

I just saw my question made it onto the show, going to listen now!