Take their husband's last names?

[marina]

I have a friend from college that is engaged. Her and her fiancée have discussed scrapping both their last names and making a new one that would be both of theirs, which I think is a lovely idea.

I have two other friends, a lesbian couple who got married, and the woman with the more complicated, hard to spell and pronounce last name took the name of the women with the easier last name.

Dr. BF and I have joked about combining our names, but I don't think we would do it. Of course, it's not that important because we have no plans to marry. Our name issues come in when we talk about any future children we would raise together. I'm not so attached to my last name since Martinez is a very common Mexican surname, and Dr. BFs surname is kind of cool sounding. However, I get competitive and I think that if our kid gets his last name, it should get mine too. But I hate hyphenate names and I hate giving children middle names that are last names. Maybe I'll call the kid Martina.

[gumby013]

Originally Posted by marina

I have a friend from college that is engaged. Her and her fiancée have discussed scrapping both their last names and making a new one that would be both of theirs, which I think is a lovely idea.

I have two other friends, a lesbian couple who got married, and the woman with the more complicated, hard to spell and pronounce last name took the name of the women with the easier last name.

Dr. BF and I have joked about combining our names, but I don't think we would do it. Of course, it's not that important because we have no plans to marry. Our name issues come in when we talk about any future children we would raise together. I'm not so attached to my last name since Martinez is a very common Mexican surname, and Dr. BFs surname is kind of cool sounding. However, I get competitive and I think that if our kid gets his last name, it should get mine too. But I hate hyphenate names and I hate giving children middle names that are last names. Maybe I'll call the kid Martina.

Allison Pound and her fiancee are mashing their names together too.

She will be Allison Killpound....

[Izzydizzy]

since the option for - i wouldn't mind if she did or didn't is there, im adding it

[pala]

Originally Posted by marina

I have a friend from college that is engaged. Her and her fiancée have discussed scrapping both their last names and making a new one that would be both of theirs, which I think is a lovely idea.

I have two other friends, a lesbian couple who got married, and the woman with the more complicated, hard to spell and pronounce last name took the name of the women with the easier last name.

Dr. BF and I have joked about combining our names, but I don't think we would do it. Of course, it's not that important because we have no plans to marry. Our name issues come in when we talk about any future children we would raise together. I'm not so attached to my last name since Martinez is a very common Mexican surname, and Dr. BFs surname is kind of cool sounding. However, I get competitive and I think that if our kid gets his last name, it should get mine too. But I hate hyphenate names and I hate giving children middle names that are last names. Maybe I'll call the kid Martina.

I've never been big on the mashup names. I guess I'm old fashioned in the fact that names hold importance to me, theres history behind your name, good or bad, and when you do things like make up your own last name you take away from that, but meh thats just me.

As for making the government come up with civil unions to try to absolve the government of meddling in requiring people to change their names you will never see that because that would open the door even more to the dreaded "gay marriage".

[da_ticklah]

I'm a dude and I requested she take my name, she did

[Mikey]

no.

the purpose was in part to show she is a man's property, and by taking his name, projecting she "belongs" to him, and as such, is not his equal.

when i get married we will create a new name, or leave them be

[spooky]

Originally Posted by pala

As for making the government come up with civil unions to try to absolve the government of meddling in requiring people to change their names you will never see that because that would open the door even more to the dreaded "gay marriage".

Explain? The reason I usually hear behind someone being against gay marriage is a religious one. Marriage being a religious thing, and their religion saying it can't be done means just that, and no government is going to step in and tell their religion what it can and can't do, what it is and is not allowed to believe. It is based around freedom of religion, not a hatred of gays.

I am an atheist, I support gays doing whatever they want, they absolutely should have equal rights, but I am not about to strip religious freedom from a person's rights, rob Peter to pay Paul. I am not for gay marriage except where the individual's religion allows for it.

It's how most republicans feel about it, and a good number of democrats as well, which is why the whole civil union thing was brought up to begin with.

Government made a mistake getting involved, as diversity grew in America, it turned out to be a shaky foundation on which way too many laws and regulations were built on. The only way to fix it that makes sense is to fix the foundation, not go all GW Bush on everyone with some new religious version of the Patriot Act.

Honestly, I don't see how this hasn't been fixed, and I am at a loss as to why the answers aren't obvious to everyone. The politicians use it as a tool to get elected, so I see why they keep it around, but the general public, on both sides of the isle, should be united in fixing this, removing government from religion and creating a government only social union that affords all the legal protection intended when they piled it on the shaky back of the religious institution of marriage.

[Rhian]

I have worked with a number of families that mashed their names to make a new one for the kids, instead of just hyphenating. I know of one family that did two different mashups for each kid. That's a bit two hippy dippy yuppie granola crunching for me.

I grew up with both my parents last names, and my 16th birthday present to myself was legally go by my mom's last name for a few reasons. 1. Some of you know my history with my father and 2. I'm the last one to carry my mother's last name.

Not a feminist thing at all for me, I haven't nor will drop my mother's maiden name.

[madeyeshawn]

I'm an atheist and don't even plan to marry.

If I did marry I would not want her to take my name. I get its practical, but it just seems silly and old school.

[pala]

Originally Posted by spooky

Explain? The reason I usually hear behind someone being against gay marriage is a religious one. Marriage being a religious thing, and their religion saying it can't be done means just that, and no government is going to step in and tell their religion what it can and can't do, what it is and is not allowed to believe. It is based around freedom of religion, not a hatred of gays.

I am an atheist, I support gays doing whatever they want, they absolutely should have equal rights, but I am not about to strip religious freedom from a person's rights, rob Peter to pay Paul. I am not for gay marriage except where the individual's religion allows for it.

It's how most republicans feel about it, and a good number of democrats as well, which is why the whole civil union thing was brought up to begin with.

Government made a mistake getting involved, as diversity grew in America, it turned out to be a shaky foundation on which way too many laws and regulations were built on. The only way to fix it that makes sense is to fix the foundation, not go all GW Bush on everyone with some new religious version of the Patriot Act.

Honestly, I don't see how this hasn't been fixed, and I am at a loss as to why the answers aren't obvious to everyone. The politicians use it as a tool to get elected, so I see why they keep it around, but the general public, on both sides of the isle, should be united in fixing this, removing government from religion and creating a government only social union that affords all the legal protection intended when they piled it on the shaky back of the religious institution of marriage.

Marriage started out as a religious thing, its become more of a symbolic thing to represent how much you love someone (ideally). I'm not against gay marriage at all, as a matter of fact I could care less what they do its their life. I just don't think you will see the government go to civil unions BECAUSE it removes religion from the equation. That would open marriage up to gay marriage essentially because its religion that keeps it out.

Oh and for all you hard core left wingers out there, its not just conservatives that are against gay marriage a lot of liberals try to get that vote as well.